I Haven’t Heard From Him in Two Weeks. Should I Wait It Out?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Lillian Castro

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Reader Question:

I went out with guy. At the end, he kissed me and said he plans to “prove his chivalry” and will take me out again soon. He said the next two weeks were insanely busy with work.

He text me the next night and said he had a great time and we should do it again soon. I responded with pretty much the same thing.

It’s been about two and a half weeks and I haven’t heard from him. I’m not the obsessive type, but I did have a great time.

How long should I wait before initiating contact? Should I wait it out for as long as it takes him to contact me again?

-Gray (New York)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Gray,

If he is the one pursuing, you will cash in your power by turning the chase around. Men love to hunt and find it no fun to hunt in a zoo.

I would focus your attention on anything else. When he eventually calls again, reward him with a happy voice on the phone and act like you were so busy you didn’t know the time had passed. Hopefully, that will be true!

And if he only texts you, read the technology chapter in my book “The 30-Day Love Detox” to learn how to train a man to call instead of text.

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