I Met a Man Online Who is 62. How Are Women My Age Supposed to Act Online?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I met a guy on Match.com. He is 62. I am 56. He said, “I’m falling in love with you,” but 10 minutes later he said he wants to continue seeing other women.

He also has ejaculation issues. We have not gone so far as to be 100 percent intimate. I know he likes me very much, as evidenced by the quality of our time together as well as the increased closeness of him to me. My intuition says his sexual issues overshadow everything.

I would love to know the statistics on women in my age group and how they act in online dating. My suspicion is many women “throw themselves” at men online because they think men are few and far between for their age group.

-Junine (California)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Junine, you are spot on.

Over the age of 50, there are more women than men on the dating market. And since one-third of men over the age of 50 have erection problems, many of those guys are opting out all together. The rest have the pick of the litter.

I’m not sure what ejaculation issue you think he has. He may have PE or DE, but in either case, this is less important than his desire to have multiple relationships.

If he wants to continue to see other women, then you should allow him to do that, but do not have sexual contact — anything besides a hug and kiss on the cheek — until he is ready for sexual exclusivity.

When sex is easy, a man falls in love with the woman he trusts the most, and men don’t trust a compliant woman with no boundaries. The word NO is the world’s biggest aphrodisiac.

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