I’m Afraid I’m in the Friend Zone. What Should I Do?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I’m afraid I’m stuck in the friend zone. I like one of my male best friends, but I don’t know if it is mutual. He recently got out of a three-year relationship, and I’m afraid if I do something about this, then it could wreck our friendship.

What should I do?

-Katherine (Minnesota)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Katherine:

This is a tough one. First of all, the timing couldn’t be worse for you.

If he just got out of a three-year relationship, he won’t be making good decisions. He may not want to rush into another big relationship so fast and if he does, you could end up as the short-term rebound girl.

On the other hand, you’ve got to decide if you can live with unrequited love. If he’s really the one you love, it may become torturous to be on the sidelines watching his dating life.

If it were me, I’d hang around a bit longer, give him all the signs you are interested (Do you know how to flirt?), and if he doesn’t take the bait, you’ve got your answer. Then you’ve got to decide if being in the friend zone is a happy place for you.


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