I’m Dating Two Guys at Once. Is That OK?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I have been single for three years and I’m just stepping out into the dating world after a 13-year marriage that ended in a divorce. I have met guys who were a letdown but finally came across a really nice and respectful guy. We have gone on three dates, and this last date we were on he surprised me with a kiss good night. I have also met another guy who I’ve only been out with once, but he seems like a nice guy also.

Is it OK to date more than one guy at a time? How do I know who the right one is for me?

-Christina (Texas)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Christina: Great question! Yes, it’s absolutely OK to date more than one guy at once. Remember, dates are interviews. You are deciding who to take into your firm in a partnership position, and you better be selective.

What is not OK is to be having sex with more than one person without their consent. Swapping germs and spreading them around the town is not a good girlfriend move.

It’s also not OK to lie. If either guy asks if you are exclusive with him, be honest. And if one of them begins to spend money on you like you are an exclusive girlfriend, start splitting the costs.

Nothing makes a man madder than finding his girl is seeing another guy and his wallet was thrown out the window.

Take your time. Enjoy dating. You are in control here and you control the pace of both relationships.

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