Spicer Helps Couples Express Their Desires

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Spicer Helps Couples Express Their Sexual Desires to Spice Up Their Relationships

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The Short Version: Starting a conversation about sex can be difficult, even for couples in long-term relationships. Some couples may have trouble overcoming shyness or shame to discover what they enjoy in the bedroom. The Spicer app aims to change that by helping couples share their sexual desires and fantasies so no one has to feel embarrassed or inhibited. Couples download the app on their mobile devices, sync them, and then answer questions to see where they and their partners match.

When couples first start dating, they may recognize certain types of compatibility. Maybe they can make each other laugh easily or have the same taste in music or fashion.

The more time couples spend together, the more they can build deeper bonds, including reinforcing intellectual and emotional compatibility. However, they also must be sexually compatible, which can be difficult to determine and can also change over time.

That’s why the Spicer app aims to help couples see just how sexually compatible they are at any stage of their relationship.

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The Spicer app helps couples improve sexual communication in their relationships.

Many long-term partners understand that sexual compatibility may be the least talked about aspect of their connection. It’s often the first area to suffer when there are other relationship issues, and it can be the most challenging part to address. Spicer was designed as a launchpad for some of the most important — and intimate — conversations a couple can have.

“People don’t really start sexual communications. There is only ‘Oh my God, yes,’ and that’s it,” said Andrey Sheykhot, the Co-Founder of Spicer. “There is a real lack of innovation in this important space.”

After years in production, Spicer launched an app that gives couples a way to share their desires, preferences, and kinks, and tell each other what they want without inhibitions.

Whether someone is entirely conservative or into interesting ideas and positions, the Spicer app’s questions are comfortable and fun to answer. And couples only see the questions they both answered ‘Yes’ to, meaning they can move forward with fun, sexual activities that encourage a deeper mutual connection.

Couples Can Participate Together Through the App

Couples begin their Spicer account by downloading the app — available on iOS or Android — on their mobile devices. It works if one person has an iPhone and another has an Android device, as the app is cross-compatible. One partner sends a secure code to the other to link both accounts. That’s when the fun begins.

Each person answers questions related to sexual preferences on their separate devices. They don’t have to complete all the questions at once, and they often fill them in throughout the day. That is also a great way to get couples thinking about exciting sexual activities they’ll enjoy when they see each other later.

“We wanted to make it pretty simple,” Andrey said. “You just have to install it on two phones, yours and your partner’s. You answer the questions with a yes, no, or maybe. If they say the same, then it’s a match.”

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Couples can securely connect and answer questions about their sexual preferences and desires.

Partners can see what they both enjoy, so they follow up when they see each other. For example, the screen shows a running list of sexual activities that may include using mirrors, giving partners a sexual massage, or having sexy pictures taken by their partner.

The app includes more than 12,000 sex questions for couples who may want to explore together. And they can start at the level that makes them feel the most comfortable. When a partner signs on, they’ll receive the questions that the other partner has already answered, as well as any custom questions either person wants to ask.

The app is completely free and gives users the option to purchase advanced question packs for added fun.

Illuminating What Each Partner Likes In Bed

Some questions that pop up on Spicer have two parts, which can provide couples with more context and a deeper understanding of each other. For example, one partner may think it’s fine to wake the other person up to have sex, but they would never want to be the one who gets woken up. The matches that result make it clear where both people agree.

Along with the standard question packs, the app offers daily questions, a special feature that shows one question contributed by users every day. The app’s “Plus” questions are a collection of the thousands of questions that users have contributed and voted on.

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The Spicer app offers premium question packs that allow couples to explore more.

Basic questions include topics like toys, groups, and public fun. For example, it’s worth knowing whether your partner would be comfortable having sex on a deserted beach before trying to make a move. The app can be an especially useful tool for those who have a traumatic history surrounding sex and are timid about expressing their feelings and desires.

The app features a section on sex dares that partners can use to challenge each other with, for those who really want to spice things up. Users choose dares from a list of categories, or they can make up a dare that makes more sense for their relationship. Then, couples can earn points by completing the dare.

The app even makes it easy for couples to share naughty messages through private chats, which become available with each new match. Players can set stars for each match, and then you can sort by stars to keep track of all the new ideas they plan to try out.

Spicer: Helping Users Initiate and Improve Sex

Spicer aims to bring sexual compatibility out of the shadows and restore it to its vital place in relationships. The app makes it easy for couples to find areas of their sexual lives to explore together.

In private Spicer chats, users can send pictures and share inside knowledge about matches with other couples. That can lead to plenty of fun in the bedroom — and Spicer helps couples track that, too.

Couples can use the app’s calendar to track sexual activities — whether those are chosen from a common list or created by the couple. Spicer users can track their use of sexual protection, the locations where they’ve had sex and even record how long it lasted.

They can view their sex stats in an informative graph. That makes it fun to compete against previous months to have more varied and exciting sex.

Andrey said that all types of couples use Spicer, although most of them currently live in the United States and range in age from 25 to 45. The positive feedback he’s received over the years of development has made the work rewarding for the four-person team, he added.

“When you receive an email and changed someone’s sex life or saved a marriage, that’s what makes us do things,” he said.

He addd that helping people feel more comfortable about sex is always good for strengthening relationships and allowing couples to have a lot more fun.

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