Toni Coleman Offers Pointed And Effective Relationship Advice

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Consum-mate — Pointed and Effective Relationship Help and Advice for Singles and Couples From Renowned Psychotherapist and Coach Toni Coleman

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The Short Version: Toni Coleman had built a thriving couples and family therapy practice by 2002 when she realized that many of her clients were hyper-focused on mending relationships. This sparked the idea to start, a site where people can learn how to cultivate and repair their bonds with others. Ever since, thousands of singles and couples have turned to Consum-mate’s vast resources (including newsletters, articles, and advice columns) to empower them to overcome relationship woes and connect with their loved ones on a deeper level. Toni also provides one-on-one coaching and counseling sessions, showing people how to better understand and find solutions to the issues plaguing their relationships.

Toni Coleman, a licensed couples, marriage, family, and group therapist, had been in private practice for 14 years when she began noticing a common theme — more and more of her clients were trying to zero in on ways to heal their relationships. While she enjoyed helping people through her general practice, Toni knew she might be able to provide better guidance and a have bigger impact on lives by focusing on building and repairing bonds.

So, in 2002, Toni began to specialize in dating and relationship coaching and founded — now a popular site for people seeking help with cultivating, enhancing, and fixing their relationships.

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Toni Coleman founded Consum-mate to help modern couples and singles cultivate relationships.

Her thriving practice has transformed the lives people from all walks of life — from bustling politicians in Washington, DC, to dedicated teachers in America’s heartland. Toni’s rich knowledge of dating and relationships also helps people decide whether they need a therapist or a coach.

“With coaching, the idea is that they don’t need fixing,” Toni said. “The goal is to get them what they want.”

As a member of the International Coach Federation and National Association of Social Workers, Toni delivers on both sides of the direct service spectrum to fit her clients’ needs in the best way possible. Toni pulls no punches in the credentials department. In addition to her master’s degree in clinical social work, she holds certificates in family therapy and neuro-linguistic programming techniques and is a certified life coach.

Toni has been in private practice for more than 25 years, and her clients have come to appreciate her no-nonsense approach. She’s all about helping them address their issues and come to terms with what works for them.

Uncovering Secret Messages in Nonverbal Communication

Toni has mastered the art of interpreting nonverbal communication for men and women in the dating scene. She shares all her tips and hints on uncovering what the opposite sex is saying without relying on the spoken word to understand the message. Toni’s latest project is a book proposal that highlights this communication style.

“Topics in my book would help uncover clues from online dating profiles or being able to observe nonverbal clues during a date,” she said.

She believes this is the secret to success for anyone who wants to know what a potential love interest may really be trying to say.

Psychologists have described emotionally sensitive individuals as exceptional readers of nonverbal communication styles. And Toni understands this.

Her approach gives clients support as they learn how to decode nonverbal cues, a valuable skill whether you’re new to dating or looking for love again.

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Toni believes it’s imperative to understand non-verbal cues and communication techniques.

“Do you know what red flags to look out for? Do you read between the lines, looking for negativity, inconsistency, too much information, too little information, and comments that seem inappropriate and/or lead you to feel uncomfortable? Does he sound too good to be true? If so, he probably is,” Toni said.

As a coach, Toni isn’t afraid to take a dive in unchartered waters to help clients discover the truth to these perplexing questions. She can teach you how to read body language, eye contact, and hand gestures.

For many, this is an eye-opening discovery on how to bring their whole selves into verbal and nonverbal communication spaces by using all their natural senses.

“Pay close attention to responses,” she said. “Make sure you approach any questions and concerns you may have in a direct and immediate way before you have wasted time with the wrong someone for you.”

Toni takes her understanding of nonverbal communication and the different ways to form connections with others and publishes them in her monthly newsletter, online articles, and advice columns.

Her Monthly Newsletter Addresses Trending Relationship Woes

Toni offers readers years of knowledge and experience in her free monthly newsletter, “The Art of Intimacy.”

“Our articles are designed to assist singles in finding and sustaining healthy, lasting love,” she said.

An archive of past articles serves as a go-to resource for readers looking for a convenient way to learn from one of the experts in the field. Toni provides dating tips and relationship advice on issues that span from self-esteem to commitment-phobia.

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The Consum-mate monthly newsletter offers readers free and effective relationship advice.

Subscribing is simple. All you have to do is provide your email address on, and you’ll begin receiving the newsletter in your inbox each month. One of the perks to subscribing is Toni answers reader questions related to each month’s hot topic and writes about other topics readers want to explore in upcoming issues. And her audience loves it.

A reviewer from her Testimonials page wrote, “Please continue sending me your monthly newsletter. I really like what I have read so far. It seems to be just what I need to keep inspired. We all need to feel better about who we are right now.”

A Storehouse of Best Practices Reveal Key Dating Do’s and Don’ts

Men, women, singles, and couples can find the best ways to make connections in one of many relationship articles written by Toni. Her topics on self-growth and improvement hit home for readers who need help redefining their values, releasing relationships from the past, or finding balance in their fast-paced lifestyles.

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Toni’s articles provide guidance on the behaviors that can make or break couples.

Toni’s writing style empowers others to be a success — not only in the dating world but also in life.

“Dating in the new millennium has become a very complex, perplexing, and, at times, even dangerous pursuit,” Toni said. “Daters should seek safe fun that results in healthy and happy relating, and that ‘right relationship’ you seek.”

Answering the Specifics of Singles’ Most Important Questions on Love

Toni also urges readers to participate in her Dear Dating Coach column, where she gives answers to the most frequently asked questions. This is an opportunity for you to get specific advice about your relationship needs.

You can take a peek at archived articles that explore relationship challenges, online dating, compatibility issues, and grieving over lost love, among other topics. Simply send an email to Toni, and she helps you handle your problem with all the caring attention you could ask for in a coach.

Deb is one of many readers who wrote to Toni asking for advice on how to explain her online dating relationship to friends and family. With comfort and compassion, Toni delivered on her straightforward approach to provide people with real answers.

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Toni’s advice column addresses issues on a range of topics that are most important to her readers.

“Every day individuals are meeting through personal ads and successfully taking their online relationships offline and beyond,” Toni told her. “For a great many of them, the issue of how they met is something they are reluctant to share, due to a fear that their new love interest and the relationship itself will be put under a microscope and scrutinized unfairly. While it is true that this does happen for some couples, there are many others who are pleasantly surprised by the understanding and support they receive.”

Toni’s honesty and relatability was also the perfect fit for an anonymous writer seeking advice on her roommate-with-benefits scenario. Toni’s casual and welcoming tone makes you feel as if you’re sitting across from her at a local cafe.

“So, if you feel good about what is happening, are comfortable with the pace, with how it all feels, it sounds OK to me,” Toni advised. “If anything gives you pause anywhere along the way, stop, listen, and don’t hesitate to step back and make changes as necessary. At some point, you two are going to have to talk about ‘us’, but this doesn’t have to be rushed.”

Toni Comes to the Rescue During Those Relationship 911 Moments

In a time of crisis, you want someone to call on who is knowledgeable and available to provide support, and Toni makes the time for those in need.

Through a tailored, step-by-step approach, Toni delivers powerful interventions that can shift the direction of your relationship to a positive one.

“Often when a severe relationship problem arises, it is difficult to know what to do,” she said. “There is often a fear of making the wrong choices, which can result in the loss of someone you care deeply about.”

To get the love advice you need when you need it, you can speak to Toni over the phone for 30 minutes or an hour. The choice is yours at a reasonable price. A 30-minute session is $75, an hour session is $150, and monthly coaching or counseling sessions are $400.

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For those who need immediate assistance with a relationship problem, Toni offers conference calls.

To begin, simply email Toni, and she’ll contact you to arrange a conference call. When you work with Toni, you are never alone in your journey to secure the love life of your dreams. She encourages you to do the work and gives you all the tools, advice, and wisdom you need to get on the right track.

In addition to providing advice to clients who want to enhance their relationships, Toni also understands when it’s time for couples to make the tough choice to separate.

“I saw a need to help people who come to me at the end,” she said. “It is unnecessary for people to spend a fortune on lawyers and have someone else make all the decisions about children and finances.”

Her divorce mediation expertise helps clients settle their differences without all the expense. With sensitivity and non-judgment, Toni meets clients where they are in the process of separation with non-confrontational and collaborative ways to make important life decisions.

“I ask potential clients to start with a free phone consultation to ensure this is their best decision and that I’m the right person for them to work with,” she said.

Consum-mate: Strategies That Make Use of Multiple Mediums

Toni has contributed to the ongoing discussion on singles and couples relationships on multiple media platforms, in television, print, radio, and the web. She’s been quoted in numerous publications, including Cosmopolitan, The New York Times, and CNN, and she’s expanded her voice to reach clients through Facebook and Twitter.

Her understanding of human communication and behavior has made a tremendous impact on the lives of men and women worldwide, and she means to continue her work.

“I have gained a great deal of insight and expertise into what determines long-term, stable relationships as well as what factors and characteristics lead to destructive and short-lived ones,” Toni said. “I am articulate, outgoing, and believe fully that people can learn to be successful in this very important area of their lives.”

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