I Wanted to Wait Before Getting Sexual. Am I a Fool for Caring?

Gina Stewart
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Reader Question:

I have been dating a guy for about four weeks now. He wanted to take it to a sexual level and I told him I wanted to wait.

In the beginning, he would call or text all the time. Now I am lucky to receive a call every couple of days. He doesn’t have a problem calling when he needs something, though.

Am I fool for caring about this guy?

-Crystal (Florida)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

Yep. There is nothing wrong with wanting to wait to have sex. Some guys can’t handle that, though.

You’re both entitled to your own preference on that, but the person who wants to wait takes precedent because the other way around leads to criminal charges.

You can still be warm and affectionate in the ways you are comfortable so he knows you’re interested in him physically and in sex once you reach that emotional level.

If he’s not cool about it, he’s not a good fit for you. If he cares about you, he would treat your request with respect.

Sleeping with him wouldn’t make him call or text anymore. He’d probably just bolt, and then you’d have the guilt of doing something you didn’t want to do on top of the feeling of rejection of disinterested guy.


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