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The Relationship Expert Helps Couples and Singles Build Trust & Intimacy

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Sheena Holt

Sheena Holt comes to DatingAdvice with a BA in English and creative writing. Sheena's work has appeared in numerous literary and culture publications, including Lithium Magazine. Her work as an editor and writer has taught her a lot about the ins-and-outs of dating in the 21st century. As Managing Editor for DatingAdvice.com, she has interviewed hundreds of dating professionals and relationship experts. Sheena also enjoys writing long-form fiction in her spare time to keep her storytelling skills sharp.

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The Short Version: Anyone looking to better their relationship needs to spend time working on themselves. Jaime Bronstein, also known as The Relationship Expert, is a relationship coach and therapist who encourages personal growth. She focuses on helping her clients bridge the gap between their emotional well-being and interpersonal well-being so they can have fulfilling relationships based on trust.

It’s hard to be there for other people when you don’t feel your best. When your stress, mental health, and self-esteem are suffering, being a good partner can be difficult. The success of your relationships doesn’t exist in a vacuum. How you feel about yourself and your circumstances affects your relationships. 

You need to know yourself better if you want to improve your relationships or start new ones. You need to find the tools to handle your emotions and honor and process them. To be a good partner, you need to work on yourself. And for many people, that means finding some form of therapy.

Jaime Bronstein
Jaime can help you manifest the future relationship you want.

Traditional therapy can be highly beneficial. But if you want to prioritize your relationships while healing, you may want to work with an expert focused on bridging the gap between your emotional and romantic well-being. Jaime Bronstein, The Relationship Expert, may be that person for you.

Jaime Bronstein, LCSW, is a relationship therapist, coach, and host of “Love Talk Live” on LA Talk Radio. YahooFinance named her the #1 relationship coach transforming lives in 2020. Jaime works with singles, couples, and those going through breakups or divorces to help them improve their relationships while caring for their mental health and spiritual alignment. “I popped into this world destined to do this work,” Jaime told us. “My name in French — ‘Jaime’ — literally means ‘I love.'”

Jaime encourages therapy for anyone struggling with relationships. She believes that working with a coach is a great way to show yourself love and compassion by investing in yourself. 

“There’s nothing better to invest in because everything starts with us and ourselves,” Jaime said. “So in doing this work, you’re not only enhancing and making your life better and your love life better, you’re making your life better. You’re getting past those limiting beliefs, getting past years of a certain mindset or heart-set, and getting to the truth, which is your authentic self.”

Manifest the Future You Want

Jaime said she firmly believes in the power of manifesting the reality you want, including your partner. She works on her clients’ mindset, and what she calls their heart-set, and soul-set, so they can be in the right place to find their person and have the best possible relationship. “You need to show up as your authentic self to manifest the right match for you,” Jaime said. 

"Manifesting" book cover
Jaime’s book has stories and exercises for singles.

Her upcoming book — “MAN*ifesting: A Step-by-Step Guide to Attracting the Love That Is Meant for You” — is all about how you can manifest the right relationship into your life. Packed with actionable steps and exercises, the book is a guide to trusting your intuition, showing up authentically, and figuring out what’s holding you back from your ideal relationship.

Jaime told us about a client who was struggling to find a high-quality relationship. She was working through the belief that she would be unable to find a man who was both successful and kind. Jaime wanted to help her picture what a relationship with a strong and successful man would look like. “So I had her make a collage of her ideal couples that had a strong man who was still wonderful to his wife or girlfriend,” Jaime said. “She literally manifested her soon-to-be husband within months.”

The principles of manifestation don’t only apply to people seeking a relationship. They’re also important for those trying to improve their existing relationship. Jaime believes that, in many cases, internal thoughts and emotions are reflected back to you in your external reality. “Outside experiences are manifestations of internal reality,” Jaime said. “If you believe you’re a victim, you will always be a victim. We can create our future, positive or negative.” 

While manifesting your future can mean manifesting a future relationship, it can also mean manifesting more trust, intimacy, and love into your existing relationship.

The Relationship Expert’s Tips for Thriving

Bettering your mental health and your relationships takes time and work. Relationships are determined by each partner’s unique backgrounds and attachment styles, so it’s hard to create a universal guide for improving relationships. Each situation is different and requires specialized care. Couples wanting to improve their relationships should consider working with a coach or therapist to heal their unique problems.

Still, Jaime has a few principles to help her clients gain trust and intimacy in their relationships. To have a successful relationship free of resentment, partners need to trust each other and feel they have a strong and intimate bond. 

Jaime’s checklist for trust and intimacy covers many areas she would address in her coaching work. Her five suggestions for building a better relationship include the following:

  • 1) Vulnerability. Be your authentic self. Communicate with no attachment to the outcome. Honor your voice, feeling safe and free to express how you feel. Two people need to know each other to trust each other. Don’t show up as anyone but yourself!
  • 2) No secrets. Hiding parts of your life or making your partner feel suspicious makes them unable to trust you.
  • 3) Make boundaries. Have independent time, and don’t feel insecure when your partner is out with their friends. Setting boundaries and being intentional about time together and time apart sets up expectations. That way, there will be no surprises, and no one will feel like the other one is doing something they shouldn’t.
  • 4) Prioritize each other. You need to know you can rely on each other.
  • 5) Own up. When you’re wrong, admit you’re wrong. Having a mature, evolved, adult conversation helps build trust with each other. It builds a more profound connection.

Making changes to your relationship doesn’t happen overnight. It requires effort and collaboration from both partners. But with Jaime’s help, you can create a strong relationship that’s built to last.

Don’t Settle

Jaime works with people of all age groups. She said that when she works with people with a positive attitude, she feels she can help them get on an upward track in their dating lives and help them avoid significant heartbreaks. “I dated a lot of guys before I met my husband, and it was a lot of trial and error,” Jaime said. “I’m not telling anyone they can’t make mistakes, but I want to help everybody not have to settle or suffer.”

The core work Jaime does with her clients — especially those still finding themselves — is to understand who they are and what they want out of life. “A lot of this work is about always being in your integrity,” Jaime said. “When you do that, it’s much easier to know what you want.”

Before Jaime met the man who would become her husband, she learned a lot about what she didn’t want in a relationship. But she also learned what was important to her. “I learned something from every relationship I was in and all the dates I went on,” Jaime said. “I learned about what I want and didn’t want. I learned more about myself, and I learned at the end of the day to trust that when things are supposed to work out, they will.”

Jaime hopes she can help her clients skip some of the pain that comes with learning through experience (although they will always be learning and growing) and jump straight to showing up authentically, trusting, believing, and knowing they will find their perfect match.