Why Do I Always Seem to Date Jerks?

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at karapound.com.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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So you habitually date contemptibly obnoxious men. Why are you blaming the men rather than yourself? The truth of the matter is, there must be something you’re doing to attract these jerk specimens. What are your priorities when looking for a guy? If you place genuine kindness above looks and money, chances are you won’t be dating jerks anymore. If you are more concerned with the kind of car he drives than his interests in books, movies and music, then you’re probably going to find a guy who is self-obsessed and image conscious.

And you may not want to hear this, but jerks usually prey on the weak. If you act like a meek, ditzy girl, then you are going to attract men who like to maintain control and power in a relationship. Remain vigilant when looking for a potential mate. Be yourself and prioritize what it is you’re looking for. Wouldn’t you rather be by yourself than with someone who doesn’t treat you well?

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