Why Would He Send Me an Email After Being Divorced for a Week?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Reader Question:

My ex-husband sent me an email that said I was a great woman, he loved me deeply and I would always be on his mind. He said he was ashamed of himself for letting someone like me go. Why would he send me this after being divorced for almost a week?

-Cindy S. (Texas)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

There are three possible psychological reasons for his show of love to you just one week after the divorce.

1. He feels relief and some guilt.

Now that things are settled and the divorce is final, he can put on his rose-colored glasses and remember the good things about you.

2. He’s feeling separation anxiety.

When the divorce papers are finally signed, it’s official. It’s over. No matter how bad the marriage was, this evidence of closure can bring up a strange separation anxiety.

As long as the divorce was pending, he knew you might somehow reunite. But now things are final. This can cause self-doubt and separation anxiety.

3. He wants you back.

I don’t know who initiated the divorce, how long you were separated, or what injuries occurred within the relationship, but I do know this is a common post-divorce reaction.

If you think this could be the feeling that prompted his email, think long and hard before you jump back into the fire. The best indicator of someone’s future behavior is their past behavior.

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