Reader Question:
Are there any dating sites for those of us over 60 where men are more friendly than not? I have not had trouble meeting men in person once we go through the trauma of getting to know each other. But just getting to that point is very frustrating, and I hate to put money out there for nothing! If I take the time to write a nice email, I never get an answer back. Men — What is the matter with you all??
Sally J. of Jeffersonville, Ind.
Expert’s Answer: Senior Dating Sites Are Your Best Bet
Oh, Sally. It sounds like you’re a bit jaded by the online dating world and wondering if it really works. Don’t give up! There’s plenty of cyber space for all of us.
I’m not sure which sites you’ve tried already, but I’d recommend checking out ones that are specifically for men and women over 60. You can create a free account on SilverSingles or OurTime. These two quality dating sites cater to the mature dating crowd.
It’s easy to find friendly men on these sites by sending likes, flirts, and messages. Just be on the lookout for men who don’t seem to take the process seriously and haven’t filled out their entire profile or added pictures of themselves.
Be Self-Aware As You Seek Love at First Site
You might not want to hear this, but maybe it’s not the dating site that needs improvement — maybe it’s your approach. How lengthy are these “nice emails” you’re taking the time to write? Keep them under 200 words long. I know it’s hard to limit yourself to just a few lines and a question, but you really don’t want to scare dates away by starting off too strong.
Remember that getting back into dating is intimidating for a lot of seniors because they don’t want to feel rushed or overwhelmed. They’re learning as they go, too. Take things slow, enjoy the ride, and keep an open mind as you browse senior dating sites.
With the right sites and a positive attitude, you’ll find the perfect guy for you. It just might take some time, effort, and a few dollars for a membership fee, but online dating can definitely work no matter what your age or background.
We wish you the best of luck. Let us know how it turns out!
