I Never Hear From Them Again. What’s Going On?

Gina Stewart
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Reader Question:

I am a very attractive 27-year-old law student who needs advice. I joined Match.com last year and although I have no problems getting dates, I have been having the same routine happen and cannot understand why.

A couple of times I would go on a date with a very successful guy in his early to mid-30s and we find ourselves sitting and talking for more than six hours.

Both times I ended the date while the guy still wanted to spend more time together. Both times they asked me for a second date while we were saying bye, which I said yes to.

Both texted me right after saying something like “Wow, didn’t realize we were talking for that long” and I said “Yea but I had fun.”

Then I never heard from any of these guys again. I texted one of the guys a week later and didn’t even get a response back.

Do you have any idea what’s going on?

-Anna (Washington D.C.)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

Based on this information, it is very perplexing as to what is happening. I think it’s fair to say you didn’t do anything wrong in these circumstances, so there is no theme to detect here except these guys are the common thread to the failure.

They could be flaky, going through their own issues, distracted by new online dating prospects, etc. We could speculate for days but it does no good.

You sound like you have a lot of good things going on for you. Focus on that and keep dating.

You shouldn’t have to concoct some magic potion to get to a second date. The right guy will make it obvious he wants it.


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