I’m 65 and On Disability. Can You Give Me Good Advice?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I’m 65 and on disability. I’m a good man but am having problems finding a woman. I think I might be saying the wrong things.

Can you please give me good advice?

-Robert (Illinois)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Robert,

I’m not sure what things you could be saying that might be turning women off, but I will tell you women are attracted to a good, strong man of any age who loves himself enough to not appear desperate.

I suspect your self-esteem is the thing that is blocking you. The fact you introduced yourself to me by your age and disability tells me this is how women see you.

I think you need to reframe your self-perception. You are a wise man with plenty of life experience and plenty of abilities. Lead with that and women will notice.


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