Reader Question:
I’ve been dating a girl for a while, but she has a lot of problems with depression and hasn’t wanted to see anyone for a while. She says she still wants to see me but that she’s having a hard time at the moment. I’m trying to be patient with her, but I’m starting to find it hard and really don’t know what to do.
I really like this girl and don’t want to give up. I’m pretty sure she is genuinely having hard time and not messing me around.
-Sarah (United Kingdom)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
The biggest question I have for you Sarah is this. Has your girlfriend come out about her sexuality, and if so, is her environment supportive? If so, then this is how she may deal with her depression. But it’s not the best way.
Reaching out for help from those around us is a better way to alleviate depression. If I were you, I’d offer your unconditional, nonjudgmental ear, but at the same time, gently tell her you have needs in this friendship, too. Ask her what she can do to nurture the relationship so you both can feel better.
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