How To Keep A Senior Man Interested

Senior Dating

How to Keep a Senior Man Interested (10 Expert Tips)

April Braswell

Written by: April Braswell

April Braswell

April Braswell is a senior dating expert, dating coach and professional dating profile writer. She leads dating, relationship and communication skills workshops throughout California.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Whether your senior relationship started a few months ago or many years ago, it’s natural to wonder how to keep your man interested in the present and in the future. You’ve come to the right place!

Read on and we’ll explore several ways to keep the sizzle in your senior love affair.

1. Maintain an Active Sex Life

Yes, really, numero uno is sex. His sexual performance may have changed and evolved over time, but he’s probably still very interested in having sex — both as an expression of his love for you and as an affirmation of his masculinity.

You two may not always be in sync in terms of drive, energy, and interest, but talking about sex and working out mutual logistics will surely captivate your senior man’s interest in you.

2. Take Care of Your Appearance

Take care of yourself and honor your wonderful body by eating healthy, exercising, drinking lots of water, getting lots of sleep, and maintaining a skincare routine.

When you’re confident about your appearance, it’ll bleed over into your relationship.

I know this sounds like a lecture, but you can make it fun. Cook meals with your senior love, take dance classes together, challenge each other to drink an extra glass of water every day, relax and cuddle in bed with one another, and find face masks that you both can enjoy.

When you’re having fun, your confidence goes up, and your senior guy will respond to your vibrancy and think that you’re intoxicatingly sexy.

3. Wear Sexy Intimate Apparel

If you don’t have one already, give yourself a lingerie drawer. Lingerie doesn’t have to be expensive to get your boyfriend or husband’s blood flowing. Target and Walmart have some great options at budget-friendly prices.

From sexy bras to negligee, every woman should have something intriguing to wear in black and red — each. After those classics are covered, play with colors that enhance your skin tone and eye color.

4. Show Interest in Him

Now that he’s over 50, his life is surely very different. Maybe he’s retired. Maybe the kids are out of the house. His hobbies and interests have probably shifted and grown — as have yours. So ask him deeper questions about who he is now.

“What is your vision for this year?” “Where do you want to travel this year?” “What activities would you find most rewarding for us to do while we’re there?” And then listen. Hear him.

Check back with him once a week or so with engaging questions to further draw his specialness out of him. And then receive and affirm him for it. Men of all ages adore when women see their wonderfulness and mirror it back to them. He’ll glow in your reflection and feel truly fulfilled as a man.

5. Don’t Hover — Give Him Space When He Needs It

Senior men still need to have a private sanctuary. Men often like to have some quiet time alone. Growing up, our fathers typically had this with their office at home or in the workbench in the garage.

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Don’t keep track of how much time he spends by himself and don’t get frustrated. Take this as an opportunity to do what you want to do.

Give your senior man his hermit time to ruminate, write, eat snacks that aren’t the best for him, and do his weight lifting in his Man Cave.

6. Pursue Your Own Passions Without Him

His alone time can be an optimal time for you to catch up on Netflix and Hulu episodes that you missed. Or maybe you can post new articles on your blog. Or maybe get back into your needlework. Or maybe you can curl up and read a new book.

Whatever it is, you both need time apart, which makes the rejoining later in the day or at the end of the weekend all the sweeter. You each have things to share with each other in conversation that’s varied, interesting, and reflective. And that’s the glue of a relationship, isn’t it? Your connection binds you.

7. Be Interesting

It’s true that for someone to be interested in you, you need to be interesting.

Maybe when the two of you first got together over 23 years ago, your hobbies and interests were working, raising children, and building a home. Now that you’re older, maybe you’re not working anymore, your kids are off on their own, and your home is exactly how you want it. This is a great time to work on yourself.

Or maybe the two of you are in a brand-new senior romance. He was attracted to you because he found you interesting. Don’t let that fall to the wayside. Continue to be the truly interesting woman he fell in love with. In this day and age, no modern man wants a woman who is a complete doormat.

8. Love His Family

Whether it’s his parents, children, aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, or nephews, it’ll mean a lot to him if you respect the important people in his life.

Yes, they may be a pain in the butt at times, but they’re family. Include them in dinners and special occasions. Visit them regularly. Write handwritten cards to let them know they’re on your mind.

Whether you practice different religions or are of different ethnicities, many modern families are blended in one way or another. You are one family, though, and the facets of differences make for greater beauty in your love together.

9. Get Closer to Him Through His Stomach

It can sound like an old adage, but it really does bring you closer to someone when you cook for them. Cook his childhood favorites as well as introduce different types of cuisine into your food arena.

Also make sure you two are cooking together every once in a while, so you’re spending even more time together. He’ll feel respected when you include him and discuss meals with him. Ask him for feedback while also sharing your preferred ingredients.

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Cooking a meal for someone is the easiest way to get closer to them.

Going out to eat can bring new energy into your relationship, too. It’s OK to go to the same diner once a week, but you should also try out a few new places every now and then.

Just because you’re making food a big component of your relationship doesn’t mean it has to be unhealthy. Switch out white rice with brown rice, always cook a veggie along with your pasta, and things like that.

10. Try Different Activities Together

Keep your activities varied and fresh. Getting away for a weekend road trip will add some spice back into your relationship. Go to a regional food festival. Maybe there’s a drive-in movie theater in your area. Try to do some big activity once a month at least.

At the beginning of the year, go over the events you want to attend and put them in your calendar. That way, you two will have a lot of things to look forward to. The planning can be just as fun as actually doing the activity.

Now You Have Several Ways to Engage Your Senior Mate’s Interest

Choose a few of the tips above to play around with, and have fun deepening your love bond. That’s most important.

He’ll appreciate that you’re putting in an effort to strengthen your relationship and get to know him even better.

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