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How does marriage fit with an open relationship? What about having kids? Do I want those things?
Legal marriage is, to me, just that: a legal document dictating a financial agreement with a partner.
Therefore, getting legally married is a financial arrangement and agreement and can overlap with any relationship structure, given it is between two people (and in many states still, two straight people).
Legal marriage is not allowed between more than two people in any states.
While we both see the practical benefits of getting legally married (and so we probably will soon), it is less important than being clear on our other relationship agreements and maintaining transparency, trust, communication and commitment to one another.
We know many people who are married and have open relationships, and their reasons for getting married ranged from the practical, financial and legal benefits, to the practicalities of raising children together, to the symbol of being in a long-term and loving relationship.
Because there are not laws around having ceremonies, people who choose to have more than one partner may choose to have more than one ceremony of commitment and love.
J. and I recently had a commitment ceremony, and it looked very much like any other wedding. I wore a white dress and we had a wedding party, music, vows and cake.
Things we did differently included:
If either of us ever has another long-term relationship marked by a similar level of commitment, I would expect to have another kind of celebration and party.
“We have many friends who have open
relationships and are raising children.”
Because I am interested in doing other things with my life, I don’t think I will be raising kids of my own. If I decided I wanted to raise a family, I plan to adopt children.
My open relationship is definitely not the reason I feel averse to raising kids.
In fact, I feel extremely comfortable with my relationship structure as a benefit to any hypothetical kids I may have. More loving adults in my life would mean more loving adults in my children’s lives.
If J. and I had any other partners who wanted to co-parent, I can’t see how that would be detrimental to our children.
More time, energy, love and resources for kids can’t be a bad thing (similar to how having stepparents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins and other parental figures hopefully adds love and support to the children’s lives).
We have many close friends and many acquaintances who have open relationships and are raising children.
I am not personally close with anyone in a more-than-two parent household, though. Everyone I know who is open and parenting is doing so in a two-parent household.
The openness, solid communication skills, compassion and love the adults practice spill over into their parenting, and I can’t be more confident that those kids will become self-aware, communicative and emotionally healthy adults.
In addition, the sex positivity these people embody will translate into their children knowing and respecting their bodies and hearts and the bodies and hearts of others.
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