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Mary Gorham Malia
You took the dive. You put up a profile on an online dating site. Now what do you do?
Well let me ask you: Are you looking for a pen pal or an in-the-flesh, hold-her-at-night girlfriend?
You’re looking for a girlfriend. Right, I knew that but wanted to check with you.
If you’re looking for a girlfriend, then lets get clear on how to use online dating to get that result.
Don’t leave it half done or even undone. Get it all done.
That includes a good picture of your face and a full body shot. Let women see what you look like and be upfront about it.
It’s never a good thing to play games with your pictures. If she doesn’t like the way you look, then why would you ever want to be with her?
Get this out of the way right from the start.
“Finding a great relationship
is about taking action.”
Stop sending emails back and forth for weeks on end. Stop sending messages back and forth with no real plan to meet.
Sure you are nervous, but there’s no real chance this woman can be your girlfriend in real life until you meet.
Don’t wait on this. Make plans to meet someplace easy and on the casual side.
Keep this first date on the short side, a couple of hours is plenty. Then if you had fun, felt safe and found her interesting, ask for second date.
Relax and be in the moment. If the first date goes well, plan a second. If that goes well, plan a third.
Take it one date at a time until you’re far enough down the road to make a decision to be exclusive. That’s it.
Finding a great relationship is about taking action that gets the two of you in the same room, exploring how well you get along and how well your life, values and goals are aligned.
So dump the pen pal angle, stop wasting time and be the chooser. Ask her to meet and bring things into the real world.
Gay girls, have you ever been worried to meet a woman in person? How did you overcome your fear?
Photo source: salon.com.