How To Get And Keep A Mistress

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How to Get and Keep a Mistress

Alex Matlock

Written by: Alex Matlock

Alex Matlock

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First off, I want to start by mentioning this article is not about how to cheat on your current partner.

This article is more about the women you can cheat with, the women who will continue to have an affair with you even if you are married with children.

It’s important to note this article should be regarded as entertainment more than anything else.

I do not recommend cheating on your partner (may it be a wife or girlfriend), but if circumstances ask for it, this article should prove quite helpful.

Recently I’ve been asked this question a lot by people who are having trouble with their wives. Most of them argue they can’t have sex with their partners (for various reasons) and that cheating seems to them the only option to satisfy their lust.

Because men are genetically designed to “spread thy seed,” they can become sexually frustrated with a partner who is less inclined toward having sex on a regular basis.

Most young straight men want to have sex with many women as possible, and they feel this carnal desire deep within them. It’s something that is genetically embedded into the DNA, and it can only be controlled by sheer will and determination.

I have never been forced into this situation mostly because I always made things clear from the beginning and have stepped into casual relationships that allowed me to have multiple sex partners at the same time.

However, due to my work, I had the good fortune of meeting quite a few of these women (and men) throughout my life.

Why a mistress?

Many might believe any woman can be turned into a mistress. This is correct to a certain extent.

A real mistress is the one who knows you have a main relationship and knows her place as a mistress in your life. If you’re sleeping with two women but they don’t know about each other, that just means you’re playing two women at the same time.

The beauty of the mistress is she actually accepts her situation and doesn’t demand much from you.

This provides you with the opportunity to keep your current partner (the one you supposedly love and maybe have kids with) while having the occasional sexual encounter with your other (and maybe younger) woman.

In a situation where you have a wife and kids (or a very demanding girlfriend), it’s very hard to sleep with random women constantly, as this is a very time-consuming process.

This is why your best bet is to have a mistress. You only need to put in the effort once, and then you can go back to her whenever you want.

The mistress profile.

The type of women who are good mistresses are career-focused younger women (22 to 26) who want to be independent. Basically, these are women who want to do everything by themselves and don’t need a man to take care of them.

This is what you need to look for and this is where you need to start. They usually hang out in dive bars and lounges for young professionals. They may even browse anonymously on Ashley Madison, an affair dating site known for its sultry, morally loose membership.

Some young women are also prone to falling for older men because they think the single men their age are immature. If you are her age, you need to demonstrate outstanding maturity and never offer to take care of her.

In a way, these women take on the man role, so it’s absolutely paramount that you treat them as an exact equal.

They love talking about their work and are generally more knowledgeable than most women you meet. When asked about relationships, they will often avoid the issue by saying I’m just having fun, not looking for anything serious, etc.

It’s important to note this is not necessarily what they want, but they use these lines to differentiate themselves from the “marry me” mentality, which they see as a weakness.

“To keep her happy, make sure you

keep things clear from the beginning.”

How to get her.

I know a lot of girls who are mistresses, and your best bet is to go for someone young (22 to 26), regardless of your age. At that age, they think mostly about their careers and don’t realize what they’re getting into.

If they are over 30, it will be increasingly difficult to keep them as a mistress, or you might just find them getting pregnant because they want a kid.

Picking up one of these women is not going to be difficult. If you can demonstrate outstanding maturity from the beginning, things will go fairly well.

You need to show them you are intelligent, maybe even more intelligent than them. See how they react and basically let them play themselves into your bed while remaining cool and collected.

You will need to spend some extra time and money at the beginning, but once things settle down, you’ll be able to visit her just when you need it.

Also, the most important aspect is to mention your current relationship. There is no exact time when to tell her (before sex, after sex, weeks later). You need to judge that based on your conversations.

If you are working with this woman, she might already know or you might use the unhappiness of you current relationship to sleep with her. You can even tell her right after you have sex. It all depends on your circumstances.

Test the waters and pick out the best time. This will not only make things easier for you later, but it will also increase her desirability for you, as she might often make it her mission for you to leave your current partner (wife), which you will never do.

How to keep her.

Mistresses are easy to keep as long as you somewhat make them believe you will leave your wife/girlfriend. You will be surprised by how rare you can actually meet them due to your partner issues.

I know mistresses who are now used to having sex just once or twice a month. This is absolutely outstanding, as you will soon find out they will become faithful without you even trying.

However, never expect the mistress to be faithful and never ask her for it. Tell her to be free and tell her to find a man who is better for her, as that will only make her want you more (and even make her faithful).

To keep her happy, make sure you keep things clear and tight from the beginning. Tell her your wife (or girlfriend) comes first because of xyz reasons (kids or just lie if you must). Don’t spend overly amounts of time with her and never sleep at her place.

The occasional weekend away (once every five months or so) can do you wonders. However, make sure you have a good excuse for the other half.

You now know how to get and keep a mistress.

Note: If you have a wife, try to sort things out with her first. Also, if you decide to go down this route, never leave your wife and never admit to anything if suspicion arises.

If you have a girlfriend and you’re young, I suggest leaving your girlfriend because if you feel the need to have a mistress now, the relationship is going to be nothing but a waste of time.

It’s better to end it now before there are kids or divorce lawyers involved.

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