Old courting rituals made it quite easy to tell if a guy was interested. He sacrificed a fair amount of time, energy and money and he didn’t play games.
Unfortunately, today men and women alike are rejecting traditional dating rituals (some needed a reboot anyway) that helped in deciphering a hookup from a long-term commitment.
In some ways, we threw the baby out with the bathwater, as a loss of traditions also meant a loss of information, but new traditions are emerging to determine someone’s relationship potential.
While plenty of young men can’t afford fine dining, here are a few new ways men can signal their intentions to commit.
1. He responds to you publicly
This means he isn’t afraid to post on your Facebook wall or answer your phone calls in front of his friends. He’s not trying to hide you and put you in a private sexual compartment of his life. He makes sure others know you exist.
If a guy is reluctant to acknowledge you in public, he’s either not ready to commit or isn’t interested in monogamy. In either case, you deserve more.
“If he can’t live up to simple
rituals, find someone who can.”
2. He meets you or picks you up before a date
While some women prefer not to be picked up on a first date for safety precautions, meeting you a block away so you can enter the restaurant or movie theater together is a modern way of saying he’s interested.
Not only that, but it also shows he wants to enter somewhere with you at his side. If he refuses to meet you or pick you up before a date, something fishy is going on.
3. He calls instead of texts
Yes, we have entered a digital age, but you can only grow so much intimacy over text and email. Phone calls can’t be made when he’s at a business dinner or out with his buddies.
Calling signals his intent to give you his attention and have meaningful conversations. Texts are primarily used to connect, while phone calls say much more about a dude’s interest in getting to know you.
Let these courting rituals give a guy the potential to become a peacock and show off all his feathers to you. If he can’t live up to three simple modern dating rituals, your best bet is to move on and find someone who can.
Postponing the onset of the sexual relationship is one of the keys to determining a man’s true intentions. If he doesn’t court you before you two do the deed, he’s not likely to after either.
