Top 10 Best Sites
Looking for a dating site you can trust? Search no more.
In a landmark book, neuroscientist Paul MacLean proposed that a “reptilian complex” was responsible for instinctual behaviors involved in aggression, dominance, territoriality and ritual displays.
Sound familiar?!
Yes, that’s because it’s like the way many men approach online dating!
Men tend to focus on the visual (i.e. the photos), while women look for an interesting narrative.
Guys, if your whole profile consists of “Hi, I’m me. If you’d like to know more, then message me,” then you might as well not bother.
I’ve seen many of these interactions over and over again on my dating site, so I would like to advise you on how to do better.
In the reptilian brain, actions are fast.
There is no time to do a careful analysis of facts because that hungry T-rex or nasty neanderthal is rambling up the hillside.
This explains why a guy on a dating site will prefer to post photos of himself and search by photos rather than write interesting descriptions. Words – ugh!
Ladies, how many times have you noticed the guys didn’t even read your profile, but you can be sure he remembers your photos! There is actually a lot one can learn from a photo. Visual processing is extremely powerful, so use it carefully.
Women, you are far less reliant on the dinosaur brain in making your dating decisions, but you’re still dealing with men who act that way.
“Don’t expect her to look at your
blank profile and contact you.”
You need to have good photos that show you to be inviting.
This means having a friendly smile, being well-dressed and perhaps wearing a little makeup.
But do not have too many photos! The guy may only look at one or two photos to decide if he likes you, and he is probably not interested in pictures of you with your friends, other people or pets, you participating in your hobbies or you standing in front of the Taj Mahal.
Men, you need to build up a good story as to why a woman should be interested in you, and this means more than just having a photo.
A woman is going to be thinking about the time spent with you. This means you need to be interesting to her!
Perhaps you are an aspiring musician in a rock band. Then write something about your performances or adventures on the road. Are you a founder of a startup? Then explain what are your challenges and what your starup is doing.
Just whatever you do, don’t expect her to look at your blank profile and then contact you.
Advertiser Disclosure
DatingAdvice.com is a free online resource that offers valuable content and comparison services to users. To keep this resource 100% free, we receive compensation from many of the offers listed on the site. Along with key review factors, this compensation may impact how and where products appear across the site (including, for example, the order in which they appear). DatingAdvice.com does not include the entire universe of available offers. Editorial opinions expressed on the site are strictly our own and are not provided, endorsed, or approved by advertisers.
Our Editorial Review Policy
Our site is committed to publishing independent, accurate content guided by strict editorial guidelines. Before articles and reviews are published on our site, they undergo a thorough review process performed by a team of independent editors and subject-matter experts to ensure the content’s accuracy, timeliness, and impartiality. Our editorial team is separate and independent of our site’s advertisers, and the opinions they express on our site are their own. To read more about our team members and their editorial backgrounds, please visit our site’s About page.
Discuss This!