Want A One Night Stand Follow These Tips

Men's Dating

Want a One-Night Stand? Follow These Tips

Alex Matlock

Written by: Alex Matlock

Alex Matlock

If you want to increase your success with women, visit ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

Discuss This! Discuss This!
Advertiser Disclosure

One-night stands are good fun. I personally like them because you take a girl from hello to sex in a couple of hours, and this really makes you feel like you have game.

The truth is one-night stands are great for everyone involved because it basically gives two people the opportunity to fulfill their primal urges without any drama.

Does it happen a lot?

A study in 2009 revealed only 3 percent of women would agree to go home with an average guy, while only 8 percent agreed to go home with a very attractive guy.

If you’d read the actual study, you would see the dudes trying to score were actually investigators who probably had no game.

A more recent study, which sounds a lot better to us bros, found 20 percent of women admitted to having a one-night stand, while another 50 percent said they would be willing to have a one-night stand.

Considering all bros are good looking and lucky at the same time, these studies basically gives us at least a one in five chance of landing one of these women. Plus all bros got game so that should rank it up a bit.

If you want to increase your chances even further, read the whole of this article.

High-chance locations

You have your typical bars/clubs, but what about something different?

If you’ve seen the movie “Wedding Crashers,” then you probably know weddings are another prime location for one-night stands.

Women tend to get overly emotional and their hormones are raging, so it’s only a matter of “Hi, I’m a guy and I’m here to get things going.”

Other good but different places would be holiday parties, birthday parties (go for the birthday girl) and even taking advantage of time, as in Valentine’s day or a recent calamity that threatens the world, which makes women seize the moment and sleep with some random guy.

High-chance girls

If you go out for a one-night stand, you should play the night a bit more differently than you normally do. Instead of going straight for the absolute hottest chick, try going for her almost as attractive friends.

Considering almost as attractive means they’re pretty damn hot, this gets the really hot one very intrigued. The friend you’re after will feel even better, making your game even easier.

Alternatively, you can scan the room for direct potential candidates, as girls who are down for whatever are usually trying to get noticed.

Look for the ones who are obviously out to have fun, are doing some dirty dancing, laughing loudly, keep checking out to room as maybe some guy is going to catch their eye…that sort of stuff.

The approach

Considering you want to sleep with this girl in a couple of hours, your first impression must be pristine. Leave the cheesy lines and lame jokes for another time.

Approach her with confidence and start talking to her. It’s important to exude confidence. This will quickly get you in charge of the situation.

Once in charge, make sure you do everything in your power to make her feel good. This includes asking the right questions and giving the appropriate comments, so much so that you can connect with her on an emotional level.

Make her feel that you are exactly what she wants and make her want to have it.

The whole point of being in control means she’ll eventually do what you want (go home with you). Let’s be honest, if you let her take control, she’s not going to ask you to come back to her place.

Honesty can save you from a lot of drama, so make sure you put a subtle, “I don’t really have time for relationships/I like being single,” in the first 30 minutes of your conversations.

“I’d keep the sex normal unless

she specifically asks for it.”

Her signs

When charging for the one-night stand, it’s absolutely paramount to look at her body language.

The problem here is she won’t tell you what she thinks about you, so if she thinks you suck, you won’t know it unless you read her subconscious signs.

Considering most women love the extra attention you’re giving them, you can basically lose a whole night trying to game someone who didn’t like you in the first place.

If she is close and open toward you, that is good. If she is leaning away from you and closed off, that is bad.

Also, is she looking at your face when you’re talking? Does she seem genuinely interested? That’s all good. If she’s checking out her phone or looking around the room, that’s bad.

Reading the right signs can make the difference between getting laid or wanking off. Don’t waste time with chicks who aren’t down for it.

Taking it to the next level

If things are looking good, it’s time to start making some serious moves. Move closer to her, start touching her and eventually lean in for the kiss. Don’t go all the way. Make her work for that little bit extra.

Go and grind on the dance floor and start some heavy make-out sessions. Basically, do your best to get her juices flowing.

When you know for sure

A woman once told me you should never ask the girl to go straight from the club (wherever you are) to the sex location. Instead, you should ask to go to a more quite place (a dark bar/lounge) before.

This is probably one of the best pieces of advice I ever got on this subject because it brings her one step closer to going home together while providing that little comfort zone that makes her feel more in control.

From there, it’s only a matter of time (a lot of touching and making out) until you eventually get to the sex location.

The event

Ideally, you should never go to your place. This creates all sorts of complications, especially if you didn’t tell her what you want.

Plus, who wants a sleeper who doesn’t want to leave even if it’s 2 p.m. the next day?

Her place will make her feel much more comfortable, allowing you to actually have a good time.

Start things the moment you enter through the door. This is what you came for, so there’s no point in wasting time. There’s no need to talk about useless stuff. Just tell her how sexy she is and how much she’s turning you on.

When time for business comes, use a condom (obviously) and do everything in your power to please the woman before you bust your nut. Why? Well, if she likes it enough, this can easily turn into a fuck buddy relationship. What guy doesn’t want that?

Also, I’d try to keep the sex to normal, meaning no kinky stuff (anal, spanking, punching, whatever is in your twisted head), unless she specifically asks for it.

The exit

You can play this in a number of ways, but ideally you should just tell her you had a great time and bust out.

If she somehow gives you her number or email or adds you on Facebook, you can play this even better. Don’t say you’re going to call her. If she asks you to call her, say “That could be fun,” but never agree to anything.

If you want a chance at a fuck buddy relationship or even the odd booty call, send her a message/text/email the next day saying you had an amazing time and she should feel free to contact you if she wants to do it again.

This way you put the whole thing on her. You’ve got no more obligations, and if more sex is to come from it, I don’t think you’re going to hate it.

Advertiser Disclosure

DatingAdvice.com is a free online resource that offers valuable content and comparison services to users. To keep this resource 100% free, we receive compensation from many of the offers listed on the site. Along with key review factors, this compensation may impact how and where products appear across the site (including, for example, the order in which they appear). DatingAdvice.com does not include the entire universe of available offers. Editorial opinions expressed on the site are strictly our own and are not provided, endorsed, or approved by advertisers.

Our Editorial Review Policy

Our site is committed to publishing independent, accurate content guided by strict editorial guidelines. Before articles and reviews are published on our site, they undergo a thorough review process performed by a team of independent editors and subject-matter experts to ensure the content’s accuracy, timeliness, and impartiality. Our editorial team is separate and independent of our site’s advertisers, and the opinions they express on our site are their own. To read more about our team members and their editorial backgrounds, please visit our site’s About page.