Why Tinder Will Destroy Your Confidence

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Why Tinder Will Destroy Your Confidence

David Wygant

Written by: David Wygant

David Wygant

David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author and speaker. To find out more about David and all of his dating and relationship-building products, visit www.davidwygant.com.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

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If a tree falls in the woods, does anybody hear it? If you swipe left or right on Tinder, does anybody really care?

Have you experienced the weird and wacky world of Tinder yet?

Let me tell you something. Tinder is not for the weak at heart. In fact, if you don’t have a very healthy ego and you can’t handle rejection, I strongly suggest you stay well away from Tinder.

For those who haven’t run into Tinder yet, let me give you a quick overview.

Apparently, Tinder is now a great way to date.

You don’t have to write a single thing about yourself. I think you have up to 500 characters for a description if you want to write one, but from what I’ve seen, most people don’t bother. It’s simply picture-based dating.

The other thing is it links to your Facebook profile, so you can’t lie about your age either.

Here’s how it works…

Pictures of men or women within a 5-mile radius of where you are come up on the screen. If you’re not attracted to them, you swipe your screen left to move on, and if you are attracted to them, you swipe your screen right to send them a “heart.”

“Most people believe Tinder

is the next generation of dating.”

When you send a heart, they’re notified of a match.

They see your picture and decide if they like you. Now it’s their turn to swipe the screen left or right depending on whether they want to meet you.

That’s it. There are no words involved. It’s all about less is more on Tinder. It’s also based on the superficial fact of whether or not you find someone attractive.

It’s no different than standing at a bar, staring at all the women who come by you. The difference is you don’t have the “pleasure” of being rejected on mass by hundreds of women at a time.

If you have a string ego, bundles of confidence and can handle lots of rejection, then give Tinder a try. You might get a few responses.

But if you already struggle to meet women, or feel like women aren’t attracted to you, my suggestion would be to leave it alone. It’s just going to make you feel worse about yourself than you already do.

Multiply the panic and fear you feel when you’re in a bar by a thousand on Tinder.

It’s so primal.

It’s like being that teenage boy who finds his first Playboy and then spends hours hidden away looking at all the naked women.

How many of the women on sites and apps like Tinder do you think are going to be the somewhat sexy, smart, intelligent type you’re looking for?

I can tell you there will be very few, but most people believe Tinder is the next generation of dating.

It’s just going to create a generation of men who think they’re going to meet their ideal partner based on looks alone.

If you’re weak or looking for a life partner, I suggest avoiding Tinder at all costs. If you’re young and looking for casual hookups, then go ahead and have your fun.

I think I’ll stick to my tried and tested methods of meeting beautiful, amazing women.

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