Why You Shouldnt Date A Woman Who Always Talks About Her Ex

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Why You Shouldn’t Date a Woman Who Talks About Her Ex

Troy Spry

Written by: Troy Spry

Troy Spry

Troy Spry is a certified life and relationship coach and the one and only "Reality Expert.” He created his blog, Xklusive Thoughts, with the intent of putting out a very realistic perspective on life, love and relationships. Visit him at @xklusive5 or on Facebook

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

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“He hurt me really bad, and it was such a rough breakup.”

“Well, my ex used to always do it this way

Don’t you hate when you meet someone new and the only thing she can seem to talk about is her ex or compare you to him?

I can hear you thinking, “Well, if you have an icebox instead of a heart because of your ex, then why are you dating me?” or  “If your ex did it so great, why exactly is he your ex?”

This is the dilemma so many go through when dating someone new, and it causes more trouble than it’s worth.

If a romantic partner continually does it to you, here is why you might want to reconsider the relationship:

1. Emotional availability.

Getting over an ex can be damaging, hurtful and cause one to emotionally shut down. People who always talk about their ex usually aren’t over their ex and are probably not emotionally available.

You can’t build a healthy relationship with a person who isn’t vulnerable and available to be loved.

“Building a healthy relationship starts

with two emotionally available people.”

2. Inconsiderate and disrespectful.

Relationships are about respect and consideration of your significant other’s feelings. Someone who is willing to put their commentary about their ex before your feelings isn’t the person you want to be with.

3. You may never win.

The truth is if a new romantic interest is still talking about an ex, they probably still have feelings for that ex. The minute their ex pops back up, there is a chance they will go back to that comfortable, familiar place.

One day they hate their ex, and the next day they are back in love. You don’t want to be on that emotional roller coaster, so don’t sign up for it.

Building a healthy relationship starts with two healthy and emotionally available people. You don’t date to fight in battles about exes. You date to find someone you won’t have to fight with at all.

Choose wisely, my friends!

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