Am I Wasting My Time, or Should I Stick it Out and See What Happens?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I met this girl a month ago and we’ve been talking and going out as much as we can. The catch is that she still has a boyfriend. She has told me she doesn’t want to be with him and he doesn’t treat her the right way. She has told me she wants to be with me.

Currently, she lives at his house, and I currently live with my parents. If she leaves him, then she won’t have anywhere to stay. I just don’t feel like she really does want to be with me. Her current boyfriend gets mad when she’s not home by a certain time, and it gives us almost no time to really do anything. But she always talks about how much better I make her feel.

I just don’t know if I am wasting my time with this girl, or if I should just stick it out and see what happens?

-Ryan D. (California)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

I want you to think long and hard about if you really want to fall in love with a cheater. The woman is betraying a trust with the dude who is putting a roof over her head. And you should be concerned about his reaction if he finds out she’s been “seeing” you. Once a cheater, most often always a cheater. I don’t care how hot this girl is, run! It’s only a matter of time before she’ll be unfaithful to you.

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