How Do I Cut Off Contact with a Match?

Bethany Heinesh

Written by: Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Bethany has ghost-written hundreds of dating articles in the last 10 years for relationship experts all over the United States.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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The beauty of Internet dating is that you can get to know someone from a safe distance. This gives you a lot of control, and it certainly allows you to cut off contact with a woman if you’re just not that into her.

When you realize you’ve lost interest in a woman you’ve been matched with, even if it’s after a lengthy period of communication, cutting her loose should be easy. It still keeps you at that safe distance so you don’t have to see her disappointment and she can’t slash your tires while you’re at work.

You have a couple of different options in this situation. Although I never recommend dishonesty, you can make something up. “Work’s gotten crazy and I plan to be very busy in the coming months. I just don’t have time to date right now, but it’s been real.”

Simply ignoring your match may not be the nicest way to go, but it is an option. You could also just block her and stop talking to her. Internet dating assumes a different set of rules than traditional dating, which means you say and do a lot that you couldn’t get away with in “the real world.”

If you want to take the noble route, you can be upfront and tell her you’re moving on. Send her a message that says, “It’s been super fun chatting with you, but I don’t feel we would be a good match because (fill in the blank.) I wish you all the best and hope you find what you’re looking for.”

I highly recommend this option because it demonstrates human decency, and it won’t leave the woman sitting up all night wondering where she went wrong.

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