How Often Should I Talk to a Woman I’m Interested in Online?

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at

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Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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This is a tricky question because there are so many factors that can determine the answer. If you’re interested in a woman you met online, ask yourself a few things: How long have you been chatting? Is she as responsive as you are? Have you met in person yet?

If you just met someone, then everyday conversation is too much. Even if the woman is responsive, she may get overwhelmed or scared off by how many times you message her. If you’ve met her in person a few times and everything went great, then messaging every day can work out in your favor.

Either way, be conscious of how often a woman responds to your online messages and how long it takes her to reply. If she only writes back once a week, then obviously don’t message her seven times a week. If she usually gets back to you when she’s home from work, then message her closer to the end of the workday. Just remember to be thoughtful and never pushy.

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