I Like a Co-Worker. Will It Seem Creepy to Ask Her Out?

Rachel Dack
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Reader Question:

I started a new job and there is someone there who I am interested in.

Although I really don’t know a lot about her, I would really like to ask her out. I’m going to be working with her in a couple of weekends, which will only be our third shift on together.

Should I wait and do a few more shifts with her before I ask her out, and will it seem creepy or too forward to ask her out for coffee when we next work together?

-Rob (England)

Rachel Dack’s Answer:

Hey Rob,

What a great feeling to be interested in someone new. I understand that it can also be nerve-racking to figure out the timing of showing your interest and asking her out, especially because you work with her and don’t know her well yet.

On one hand, I can see why asking her out during your next shift is ideal because it seems like you are motivated to do so. On the other hand, waiting a bit and getting to know her more might be the better option.

The good news is working together gives you the opportunity to do just that.

While staying confident, positive and hopeful, it is also important to think about how you would feel around her if she is not interested in going out with you or dating co-workers.

Would this make you feel awkward or uncomfortable when you have to work with her?

If it feels worth it to ask her out anyway and you are getting good feedback that she would say yes, then go with it. It is always best to go with whatever feels the most comfortable for you.

Take care,


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