She Freaked When I Texted Another Woman. What Should I Do?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Lillian Castro

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Reader Question:

I met this wonderful woman. We fell in love and things were wonderful. Eventually she and her son moved in with me and my son.

I texted another woman who was just a platonic friend. When she saw I texted another woman, she freaked out. She stayed in my back bedroom for an entire week and refused to let me talk to her.

She then dropped the “Let’s just be friends” bomb on me. She still lives with me and I’m really much in love with her.

What should I do?

-James (California)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear James,

I have to be honest. You moved too fast and uprooted the lives of two innocent children.

And now you’ve discovered your new love has really poor conflict resolution skills, if not a personality disorder. Stonewalling is the single best predictor of divorce.

My advice: Separate and seek family counseling for your son and you. And if your girlfriend wants even a friendship with you, you need to insist she seek counseling with you to learn some healthy communication styles.

This is a unique opportunity to model some healthy behaviors for your kids. Being a doormat to this woman will not attract her love back. Grow a backbone and put the kids’ needs first.

If she doesn’t respect that, then she doesn’t deserve your love.

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