Why Don’t I Have Any Luck Online?

Nick Slade

Written by: Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Nick spent 20 years in the dating scene before marriage. He has always been the guy friends would come to for advice on relationships, and he developed a knack for giving helpful insights. After college, Nick was a disc jockey for a few years, when the love generation was still alive, so Nick has a lot of relevant experience to draw from when it comes to every aspect of dating, falling in love and screwing things up. He holds Bachelor's degree in humanities and a slew of master’s credits in journalism. Nick is a news junkie and tries to keep up on the latest non-fiction when he has time. He has published two books on how to win at dating and relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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There’s nothing wrong with you — but there might be a problem with your profile picture, your profile, your conversational style, or you could be barking up the wrong skirts.

Maybe that picture of you with your light saber is not attracting a lot of favorable attention. Have a girl you know, or even your sister, pick out a fun picture of you that shows a little action and personality.

If you’re using a webcam, you’re on the air! You have to look animated and reasonably fashionable. Sit up, smile, comb your hair and wear a decent shirt.

You’re always looking at the girls’ profiles, but take some time to study the profiles of some of the guys who seem like they might attract the ladies. Read their profiles, and spice yours up a little with some of the things you learn.

Be a good conversationalist, be animated, and add a lot of interesting details to your chats. You do plenty of fun things — talk about them in a fun way. Don’t give short, boring answers or ask the same old questions.

Most importantly, look for the kind of girls who might be interested in you, even if you don’t think you’ll be interested in them. Look for a diamond in the rough who might not have the glitziest or most interesting profile. Look for a girl who seems like she might not be having a lot of luck online either. Maybe you both just have a little bit of shyness to get over.

Find a few “practice” girls.  Don’t break their hearts, but use each other to polish up your online style and persona. Even if the relationship doesn’t go anywhere, you will gain useful experience. But don’t be surprised if you make a friend you want to meet for a date. You’re frustrated because the glamorous babes are underestimating you, but don’t you underestimate the “second tier” girls? There are a lot of princesses with warm hearts, hot bodies and loving arms hiding behind eyeglasses and bad hairdos.

Once you get a few successes under your belt, the whole process will become much easier and more natural. Go get ‘em!

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