Is your significant other straying from the relationship, or is he really just working overtime? Has there been a certain shift in his behavior that is making you question his faithfulness? I’ve been there.
These are questions that can keep you up at night, and I’m here to answer them for you.
Here are 10 signs your man may be cheating on you…
1. Secrecy
Secretive behavior is one of the primary signs your significant other may be unfaithful. If it seems as if he isn’t sharing the same amount of detail as he did in previous times, it’s very possible he is hiding something from you.
For instance, does he take his cellphone to the bathroom every time he has to go? Does he flip his phone downward in your presence so that you can’t see who’s calling or texting him?
Does he go to the other room to use the phone? Does he immediately forward calls to voicemail whenever you’re sitting next to him?
If these scenarios sound familiar, it’s very likely he’s attempting to hide something from you. He may be in communication with a romantic interest he’s keeping on the side.
2. Inconsistent Stories
Does it seem as if his statements aren’t adding up? Does his story change? Does he tell you one thing on Monday, and then tell a completely different story the next day?
These are tell-tale signs that he’s not telling you the full truth.
Cheaters are infamous for messing up their lies. Because guess what? It’s hard to keep all those lies straight.
It’s difficult to keep a lie going under questioning, especially if it’s something that he’s actively trying to cover up. For instance, if he states he was at a particular location, but really wasn’t there, he may actually forget the place he told you and change details like who was there and what he saw.
Look for inconsistent stories because they can be a major giveaway that your significant other is lying and possibly cheating.
3. Vague Responses
This can be a cheater’s way to deflect and cause confusion. Cheaters often feel that if they give you super bland responses, it may cover up the fact that they are hiding something.
This is a tactic that bad liars often try. They know they’re bad liars…so they try to be as vague as possible so their story doesn’t have to shift much in the future. If they only tell you a little bit, they don’t have to remember the lie.
4. Reversed Accusation
Cheaters are infamous for turning the story around. If you approach them with a concern, they may in fact accuse you of being unfaithful to cover up their own lies.
It’s a psychological tactic they use to make you overexplain yourself so they can underexplain themselves.
When it works, it totally removes the focus from them. Suddenly, they seem like the victim. But really they’re getting suspicion off themselves by throwing it on you.
5. Talking Way Too Much
In contrast to being vague, some cheaters tend to overexplain because they may be nervous. So, they’ll give you way too many details. It’ll go like this:
You say: “Where did you go last night?”
He rambles: “I met people at that new Mexican restaurant. It has these appetizers with pimento cheese and pulled pork. I had a tequila sunrise also even though tequila usually messes me up, but this was pretty weak so I felt fine. I think it was overpriced, so I wouldn’t get it again.”
He gives you more details than you asked for, goes on tangents, and talks and talks about everything he did, thought, and felt, but he doesn’t mention who was with him. This is a flashing red sign that something is up.
People who give you a lot of extra, unrelated details (in fear of you figuring them out) hope that you will focus on that additional information instead of focusing on the evidence you’ve already discovered. Smooth tactic.
6. Unaccounted for Time
Cheaters need time to do their dirty business, right?
So, there will definitely be times that will be unaccounted for. Something won’t add up. Even if they try to feed you lies about their location, something typically doesn’t make logical sense.
Whether it’s not being where they said they were or one of their friends mistakenly giving them away, there’s usually a significant period of time that’s unaccounted for.
If you notice this trend, your significant other may be cheating on you.
7. Shift in Appearance
Cheaters tend to want to look appealing to their new love interest. If you’ve noticed a change in appearance with your significant other, it may be for a specific reason.
Does he wear nice clothes and smell better than usual? If so, it is very likely he is trying to impress his new love interest.
When you’re in a committed relationship, especially if you’re living together, you notice all the little changes in their behaviors and actions.
If you’ve seen your man has a little bit more pep in his step lately, don’t be surprised if you find out it was for another woman.
8. Emotional Defensiveness
Cheaters are very good at being defensive. Oftentimes, they believe this will take the focus off them. Some may refer to it as reverse psychology.
If they become overly offended in a discussion, it might be because they want to appear to be the victim. They want to twist the story to make you the villain and them the innocent party.
A smart trick. Don’t fall for it. This is definitely a sign your significant other could be unfaithful.
9. Emotional Distance
A partner may become emotionally distant when they start cheating on you. The reason is simple. They’re giving their emotional energy to their other love interest, so they don’t have as much available for you.
For some individuals, it can be challenging to be emotionally involved with several individuals. So, if you notice that the emotional energy you previously received from your significant other has decreased, it is likely that energy is now being placed in another area. Perhaps another person.
10. Changes in Intimacy
I have one more cheater red flag, and it’s a big one. Does it seem as if your significant other is less interested in having sex with you? That’s a bad sign.
We all know that most men enjoy intimacy. More specifically, sex.
If your man does not want to be sexually intimate with you (especially if it’s for a significant period of time), it is very likely he is being pleasured elsewhere.
This is one of the biggest signs of your man being unfaithful. His decreased libido can be a tell that his appetite has changed.
All in all, be mindful that if your partner does not want sex from you, more than likely, he’s getting it somewhere else.
Trust Your Gut & Ask Questions to Get the Truth
Hopefully, these 10 signs of cheating can serve as a guide for helping you determine whether your mate is cheating. Prayerfully, it never happens.
However, if you suspect your mate is being unfaithful in any regard, always remember to pay close attention to your significant other’s behavior. An individual’s habits and behaviors are very telling.
If you can’t shake the feeling that something is going on, be direct and confront him to see what he says.
