Dr. Diana Kirschner Empowers Women to Love Themselves Enough to Start Building Healthy Relationships

The Short Version: Relationship expert Dr. Diana Kirschner believes every woman can find the love she seeks, even if she doesn’t believe she can. Dr. Diana and her trained Love Mentor® coaches encourage women to practice self-acceptance, which then helps them understand that they deserve healthy relationships. As a frequent contributor to media outlets, including The New York Times and NPR, Dr. Diana empowers women to overcome personal challenges, and her “Love in 90 Days” course teaches techniques for enacting those changes fast. By resolving the issues that make them feel undeserving of love, Dr. Diana’s clients are able to find love in their lives.Dr. Diana Kirschner

has shared her relationship strategies and advice in national publications and on TV specials, but she didn’t always have that much confidence. In fact, as a child, she felt unloved by her parents, who longed to have boys but ended up with five daughters. This disappointment made her feel undeserving of love.

“My early identity was that of being unwanted, worthless, a good-for-nothing, and socially shy to the point of being mute,” she said.

Her belief that she was not valuable impacted her romantic relationships later in life. Because her parents didn’t love her, Dr. Diana said she didn’t develop a love for herself. In turn, she tried too hard with men who didn’t want her and settled for guys who didn’t treat her well.

Dr. Diana Kirschner teaches clients how to practice self-love before looking for a relationship.

“I found myself caught in a web of what I call, ‘Deadly Dating Patterns,’” she said.

Unlike some people who don’t understand their woes, Dr. Diana knew her patterns weren’t healthy, and she recognized that they didn’t have to be permanent. After earning a doctorate in clinical psychology, she discovered behavioral strategies by observing people in stable relationships.

Not only did Dr. Diana recognize that these methods could transform her own dating life, but she also knew they could help others form healthier patterns. When she began implementing in her own life what she’d learned, she found the loving, sympathetic partner she wanted.

“I got out of my own Deadly Dating Patterns and married Sam; my rock, my love,” Dr. Diana said. “I call him my partner in sublime. My whole mission grows out of a wish to pay it forward — to bring fantastic soulmate love to singles all over the world.”

In her early years as a clinician, Dr. Diana put the lessons she’d learned from dating and working with happy couples into a program called “Love in 90 Days.” These tools form the basis of her coaching practice, and her book of the same name. The program focuses on topics like finding a loving partner, building a stable relationship, and understanding the psychology of love.

After the program was featured in national newspapers and TV programs, Dr. Diana’s methods became much more popular with daters. She said she couldn’t handle all these clients by herself. So, she expanded her business.

Now, Dr. Diana has Love Mentor® coaches who teach clients proven methods for finding the partners they seek. These coaches are trained in the strategies Dr. Diana has developed through thousands of hours of clinical observations and research.

Coaches work one-on-one with struggling daters to create a plan customized to their needs. Typically, the program focuses on both internal and external work. In outer work, daters implement strategies for interaction — online and offline. But the inner work can produce even more significant changes.

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“The inner work is used to get rid of self-sabotage and create high-value deservedness and self-confidence,” Dr. Diana said.

She calls this inner empowerment process The Diamond Self. As part of the process, women give themselves nicknames that make them feel valued, such as “Beloved Mighty Isis,” “Vivacious,” or “Irresistible Vixen.” While these nicknames can sound over the top, they can help women change their feelings of worthlessness.

This combination of information is effective, and Dr. Diana’s program has worked for thousands of dedicated followers. Many of them have even found spouses in the process.

“We have gotten phenomenal results helping our clients to have increased self-esteem, deservedness, and success in finding love,” Dr. Diana said.

Many of her clients believe they aren’t worthy of love. Whether their low self-esteem comes from childhood trauma or bad relationships, Dr. Diana’s message is that these women don’t have to continue devaluing themselves in romantic relationships.

Most of the women who work with Dr. Diana and her team of coaches are singles between 30 and 60 years old. While they’re generally successful in many aspects of their lives, they haven’t found success in the dating department.

After working with a Love Mentor®, many of the women find quality romantic partners who are better suited to their needs. What’s more, many also have what Dr. Diana describes as “tremendous breakthroughs in self-love.”

She recounts one high-profile instance in which she helped someone find true love — unexpectedly.

PBS host Midge Woolsey asked to try Dr. Diana’s program before she talked about it on the air. Midge, a never-married 50-something, documented her journey toward love — with Dr. Diana’s help — in an article in The New York Times.

Dr. Diana helped PBS host Midge Woolsey find the love of her life in just three months.

“Within 60 days she met the great love of her life, her dearest soul mate,” Dr. Diana said. “I got to attend their glorious wedding celebration, and it was filled with music, singing, and so much love.”

Midge credits Dr. Diana with helping her find the man — and the marriage — she had not anticipated. Of her union, Midge said: “As my love mentor, Diana helped me understand that I not only deserved to have but could have a strong, loving life partner who would always be there for me.”

For those who want to both learn and teach others about love strategies, Dr. Diana plans to offer a new certification course for Love Mentors. Free training videos and the “Love in 90 Days” Online Certification course are in the works, as well.

Dr. Diana empowers people to feel the way she didn’t when she was growing up — loved and wanted. That love starts with themselves and can manifest itself in their dating lives and relationships, too.

Those who want to understand what she’s all about before going forward can read her books, including “The Diamond Self Secret,” “Find Your Soulmate Online,” “Sealing the Deal,” and, of course, “Love in 90 Days.” Each of her books offers an effective way to understand her coaching style and methods. Some of the topics she discusses include dead-end dating patterns, techniques for creating an adventurous dating life, and strategies for online dating.

“Love in 90 Days” can help daters jump-start their love lives.

In an expanded version of the book set for release in January 2019, she includes a bonus chapter titled: “One Simple Secret to Irresistible Self-Confidence and Getting the Love You Deserve.”

Another way to understand her methods is through a free 40-minute coaching session over Skype. Sometimes, even these short sessions are enough for clients to make breakthroughs in their dating lives.

“One woman got engaged to her boyfriend right after being coached on how to handle the situation in her free session,” Dr. Diana said.

Others sign up for her newsletter to get dating tips delivered to their inbox. Or they can listen to other people’s dating dilemmas on Dr. Diana’s Facebook Live events on Thursdays.

Dr. Diana wants to bring her tried-and-true strategies for finding love to as many people as possible because she knows their value.

“A healthy relationship is what I want for you — and that’s what you deserve,” she said.