He Didn’t Ask Me to Go Away with Him. Am I Overreacting?

Gina Stewart
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Reader Question:

I have been dating this man for about a month and a half. We both have children and schedules that can be challenging.

I had a free weekend, so we had an opportunity to spend time together. He had a prior obligation to house-sit for a friend. He never mentioned he was house-sitting until he was on his way there, and he didn’t even ask if I wanted to go!

This hurt my feelings. To me, it seemed like a perfect mini-vacation. Am I overreacting about not being asked?

-Amber (North Carolina)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

In short, yes. A month and half of dating isn’t a significant amount of time for there to be an expectation to invite you on a mini-vacation or to someone else’s home.

Was it inconsiderate of him to not tell you he wouldn’t be available for the weekend just as a matter of courtesy? Yes, and to that, your feelings being hurt is a valid response.

You saw an opportunity to take advantage of your free weekend and it didn’t pan out. Understandably, that’s disappointing, but it’s not something you can pin responsibility on him for.


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