He’s Going Into the Air Force. How Do We Spend Our Time?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and half now. He is about to go into the Air Force and I don’t know how to take it.

His family is trying to keep him at home and away from me. I don’t know if he realizes it or not, but it kind of hurts my feelings. I’m not trying to come between his family, but this is my last year with him and I want to spend it the best way I can.

-Georgia A. (Georgia)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

His family is doing what they think is best for their son: keeping him away from a love relationship that might derail his career plans. But the bigger issue for you is not being able to explain to him how much you care about him and how much this hurts.

Do you really believe this is your last year with him? Then, I must kindly ask you, why bother?

On the other hand, if you’re hoping to build a strong relationship that can go the distance and endure the absences, then putting your feelings on the table is a first step. Tell him how you feel. Be honest.

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