How To Get A Guy In 30 Days

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How to Get a Guy in 30 Days

Nick Slade

Written by: Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Nick spent 20 years in the dating scene before marriage. He has always been the guy friends would come to for advice on relationships, and he developed a knack for giving helpful insights. After college, Nick was a disc jockey for a few years, when the love generation was still alive, so Nick has a lot of relevant experience to draw from when it comes to every aspect of dating, falling in love and screwing things up. He holds Bachelor's degree in humanities and a slew of master’s credits in journalism. Nick is a news junkie and tries to keep up on the latest non-fiction when he has time. He has published two books on how to win at dating and relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Every woman is a mystical enchantress with the power to captivate and win the hearts of many men. So it is really no big deal for you to expect that you can have a good man of your own one month from today. As a woman, you know that you could drag most any guy home in 10 minutes with a simple indecent proposal. That same hypnotic power can be diluted to get his attention, capture his imagination and make him eager to get to know you over a 30-day period.

So, baby, you can sit home alone and wallow in self-pity, certain that there is something wrong with you, or you can step up to the plate and start swinging. Try this surefire method and you will land a guy in 30 days.

Week 1 – Get noticed.

Everybody begins to blend in with the wallpaper after a while. That’s why you see celebrities try to reinvent themselves from time to time. In movies, you see the plain Jane transformed from a nerd to a hot commodity in the space of one three-minute music montage. Don’t be afraid to be sexy and girly. That does not diminish you in any way. Actually, nothing makes a woman look more confident, powerful and appealing than the ability to rock a short red dress in heels and lipstick.

If you wait for a man to notice you for your brains and personality, you will be waiting a long time. Men appreciate those things, but to get on their radar, you first have to appeal to their basic instincts. He won’t fall for your inner charm if he never takes the time to get to know you.

Do something new and different every day during this first week. Do something well thought out but drastic. Change your hair color, cut it short, put it up, put it down, add highlights, put a pink streak down one side. Wear a little makeup. It can be subtle, but even lipgloss can be very eye-catching for a man. Jewelry can add a little glimmer as well.

Get some new clothes. They don’t have to be expensive. They just have to be different. Wear dresses instead of pants. Nothing catches a man’s attention more than skin. Don’t hide your best assets but accentuate them.

Go to the gym or dust off your old spinning cycle or tread mill. You will have more energy and be more tuned into the world around you. If you’re overweight, lose a few pounds. Have an energy shake for lunch every day. You may be surprised to find out that even 2 or 3 pounds can make a huge difference in your face, even if you are 20 or 30 pounds overweight, and people will start to notice your beauty.

All of these things may seem like they are superficial and meaningless, but they will do something for your inner self as well, which will make your inner glow become more visible to the world and to men. A healthy diet and light exercise, together with a new look that makes you feel pretty and confident, will make you a happier person. And it is your smile and happiness, above all, that will attract people to you. Smile all the time, be happy and like every guy you see.


“There are a thousand guys within 10 minutes of your

door right now that fantasize all day long about

having a woman just like you come into their lives.”

Week 2 – Get out there.

Now that you’ve honed your new look and become a happier girl, it’s time to take it out for a test ride. Talk to a lot of guys and see who stops or comes back for more. Say nice and encouraging things to them in a casual manner like it’s no big deal: “You’re nice. You’re funny. You’re sweet. You’re cute.”

Go to the supermarket looking good, and let the looks you get build up your confidence. Walk with purpose, like you’re going somewhere important. Be verbal. Ask the stock boy where the canned peaches are, even if you aren’t going to buy any. Ask the old woman in front of you in the checkout line how she likes that brand of pasta sauce she’s buying. Be cheerful with the cashier. Go to the coffee shop or happy hour at the pub. Be out where there are other people. Stop blending in, and start standing out.

Set your sights on five or six guys, and make sure they see the happy and active girl you’ve become. You don’t have to make any overt moves or statements to let them know you’re interested, though a few compliments are always good. You are the bait that will attract them to you. Find subtle ways to encourage them. Also, be open to the other guys who will notice you, too. By now, you have undoubtedly awakened the interest of many men.

Week 3 – Take the initiative.

Anybody can feed the squirrels, but only a few can get them to eat out of their hand. That privilege is reserved for the ones that pay special attention to them and make the effort to engage them on a personalized one-to-one basis.

If he stops to look at you and responds when you greet him by name as he’s walking by, he likes you. Smile and ask him if he’s on his way to lunch. Of course he is, so ask him if he minds if you walk there with him. Of course, he doesn’t mind. Maybe you can even sit down and eat together, if it wouldn’t make him feel awkward.

Look for some hook in the conversation or the circumstances of the moment to propose something you can do together right now.

  • “Walk with me.”
  • “So, when is your brother getting back from overseas?”
  • “I’m really thirsty. Let me get you a soda at the corner. I really don’t want to sit there all alone.”
  • “Can you help me get these boxes out to my car?”

Talking is one thing but being tactile is even more powerful. Most women don’t really know how alluring even a brief touch of her hand can be to a man. Let’s say you’re walking down the hall at school and you’re approaching the trophy case. You can excitedly extend your waggling hand to him and pull him over to look at the new trophy your dance team just won or the picture of your older brother when he was on the football team.

He will not soon forget that brief moment of physical contact or how amazing your touch was. That alone may be all it takes to make it impossible for him to shake you off his mind.

Just take a chance and ask one guy or two guys or a few guys to join you for coffee or soda, whether it’s now or later. It shouldn’t seem at all like a date but like an opportunity for a friendly conversation. What have you got to lose?

Week 4 – Have a party.

Start inviting people a week or so ahead of time, and try to get plenty of real commitments. Don’t make it too big. A few guys and a few girls are all you need. You are an important part of the social community now, so getting a few people to come should be easy enough.

Spread your attention around, and don’t focus on one guy, unless you both already know where this is leading. Have plenty of dance music, including slow numbers you save for the right moments. Have some private outdoor possibilities available for getting a little one-on-one time with a guy. When there’s a little hugging and a little kissing, it won’t be long before you are dating somebody.

If the wrong guy asks you out, don’t worry about it. Accept the date. Now you are a woman that guys want to date, and this will get other guys on the ball to ask you out before you commit to someone else. Once you have been activated as a “dater,” the value of your stock in the dating market will skyrocket.

There is no reason why any woman should be sitting home alone if she wants a man in her life. There are a thousand guys within 10 minutes of your door right now that fantasize all day long about having a woman just like you come into their lives. When you start this plan, just make sure you jump in with both feet and do something new and different every single day to change or improve your life. Keep a journal to keep yourself honest. If you follow through, you will succeed.

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