Reader Question:
I have liked this guy since September. We hooked up once on a random night but continued talking.
I partied with him and his best friend who I ended up hooking up with because the guy I like was acting so cold. Now I’m killing myself thinking I ruined everything.
Should I apologize?
-Chanel (Calgary)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Dear Chanel,
Darling girl, you can’t take back a hookup!
Women may believe the sexual double standard (the one that gives men points for sexual experience and awards women demerit points) has been completely erased.
But I am here to tell you it has only been erased in the minds of women.
Most men still believe some women are good for having sex with and others are good for having as a girlfriend.
Having sex with him on a random night was not the way to show you are girlfriend material.
And having sex with his best friend killed any opportunity you may have had.
Think of it this way: Would you still be into him if he partied with you and your best friend and ended up hooking up with her?
Girl, next time, go slow. Behave how you would like him to behave.
Men don’t fall in love through sex. They fall in love through trust. And they don’t trust a woman who is easy.
Sigh, feminism did not reprogram the minds of men.
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