My Boyfriend is a Repeat Cheater. What Should I Do?

Rachel Dack

Written by: Rachel Dack

Rachel Dack

Rachel Dack is a licensed clinical professional counselor (LCPC) and relationship coach specializing in individual and couples psychotherapy. Rachel's areas of expertise include relationships, dating, mindfulness, anxiety, depression and self-esteem.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Reader Question:

My boyfriend of four years is a repeat cheater. I’m at my end of the rope. The emotional stress is becoming unbearable.

I love him and want our relationship to work, but I don’t know what to do. Please give me some advice.

-Natasha (North Carolina)

Rachel Dack’s Answer:

Hey Natasha,

I am so sorry to hear you are going through something so hurtful and difficult. Cheating can absolutely drain happy relationships. It is a huge violation of trust and betrayal, especially when it happens repeatedly.

I understand that you love him and want your relationship to work, and only you know if/when you are ready to end it.

It’s important to remember relationships take two. In order to continue the relationship, you both have to be committed to making it work and be on the same page about trust, honesty, etc.

The bottom line is healthy relationships do not involve cheating. You deserve to be with a man who treats you well, makes you a priority and respects you as a girlfriend and person. This type of man does not cheat repeatedly.

If you want to continue to try to make it work, therapy is a great resource. No matter what you decide, always remember you deserve to be happy.

Take care,


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