My Husband is in a Relationship. What Should I Do?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

My husband and I have been married for nine years, and all of a sudden he is in a relationship. He said he still loves me and said we should take this one day at a time, but we are still married. He said he does not want a divorce. What should I do?

Signed confused,

-Kim M. (California)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Wow! You’ve just been handed one of life’s giant crisis. The question is, can you turn this into an opportunity? This could be a wake-up call for your marriage that helps the two of you get past this crisis through intimate communication, forgiveness and deeper intimacy. Or it could be the first step toward divorce court.

One thing I know for sure, if you remain passive and tolerant, you’ll enter a slippery slope toward separation. If you really love your husband, I say, fight for your marriage. Take a stand. Give him an ultimatum that he must leave the other woman and enter couples counseling with you. If he refuses, then you have a big decision to make. Are you woman enough to get the love you deserve?

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