What’s the Best Way to Break Up With a Guy?

Gina Stewart
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Reader Question:

What is the best way of breaking up with a guy without hurting his feelings and still be friends with him?

-Belle (Massachusetts)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

Don’t hurt his feelings and still be friends? There’s really only one way to even possibly accomplish that and it’s called lying.

You should tell the guy the truth. You don’t need to be unnecessarily mean, but give him the truth in what you want (friendship) and don’t want (romance).

Then it’s up to him to decide if he wants to maintain a friendship, but be aware that he’s entitled to not want that.

The good news is if he does, at least you both know where you stand in an honest way.

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