Lesbian Dating

How to Date Younger Lesbians

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at karapound.com.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Age difference in any relationship can bring with it a unique set of issues to deal with. Or it can be no big deal. Take two of Hollywood’s power lesbian couples for example. Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi are 15 years apart, and TV host and political commentator Rachel Maddow and her artist girlfriend, Susan Mikula, have roughly 13 years separating them.

These are both long-term committed relationships where both women are on equal playing ground.

The number isn’t what’s important.

It’s the level of maturity you should be looking at. If you’re dating a woman who is significantly younger than yourself, ask yourself the following:

  • How long has she been out of the closet?
  • Is she comfortable and open about being in a lesbian relationship?
  • Is she able to take care of herself?
  • Does she depend on her parents for financial support?

Physical and mental attraction happens for many reasons.

The stigma associated with dating a woman significantly younger has no grounds to stand on. How young is too young? 10 years? 20 years?

Society may indicate that relationships between two people who have a substantial age difference between them will not thrive in the long term. This makes no sense. Women in their 50s are now just as healthy and active as they were in their 30s.

American writer, activist and feminist Betty Friedan once said, “Aging is not ‘lost youth’ but a new stage of opportunity and strength.”

It’s not the responsibility of others to decide who you share your time with. If you meet a woman who treats you well and becomes your best friend, then age is just a number.

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