13 Steps To Creating A Boyfriend For Valentines Day

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13 Steps to Creating a Boyfriend for Valentine’s Day

Julie Spira

Written by: Julie Spira

Julie Spira

Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating and creates irresistible profiles for singles.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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At first, it screamed insecurity, but my curiosity got the best of me. Before you knew it, I had created Richard Stone, my dream guy. He was hot and sexy. Best of all, he got me. Richard sent me text messages almost identical to my real boyfriend’s, so I thought, why not?

You might be wondering why someone would want to create an invisible boyfriend or girlfriend to show off to his or her friends and family. Whether you’ve recently broken up with someone or are too busy to date, for $25 a month, you can receive voicemails and texts from a real person, where the only person calling it quits will be you.

Here’s how it works:

1. Visit InvisibleBoyfriend.com  

Sign up for the beta plan, which allows you to receive 10 text messages for free.

2. Create his name

I chose Richard as his first name because my mother said I was going to marry a lawyer named Richard someday.

3. Select a middle name

I chose Glen, in honor of the town I grew up in.

4. Select a last name

I chose Stone. It sounded like a powerful name and was related to the street I grew up on.

5. Select his age

I chose 50, thinking my guy would be well-established by then.

6. Select his photo

Several thumbnails of good-looking guys were presented. You can select someone with the hair color you prefer, as well as with or without facial hair. I chose a sexy guy who looked more like a stock photo, but he was be one I’d be proud of taking a screenshot of to show my BFFs.

7. Select his personality type

For me, it was a toss-up between “adventurous and fun” and “witty and educated.” I wondered why I couldn’t have both, but I chose “adventurous and fun.”

8. Select his interests

The site gives you 17 to pick from, of which you can pick five. I chose books, fitness, volunteering, theater and working out. I wondered why I couldn’t select all 17, but I didn’t want to appear like an unrealistic girlfriend.

9. Select where he lives

I chose San Francisco because it was only a one-hour flight away and my workaholic guy wouldn’t be around much.

10. Describe how you met

It was time to create my story and to stick with it, so here goes:

We met online, and he said he lived in Los Angeles. He was in town for the holidays and switched his ZIP code on OkCupid.

Since my fake boyfriend, Richard, has family in L.A., it was fine to be in a LDR. I wasn’t sure if he has a digital sweetheart in every city.

11. State why you’d like to have an invisible boyfriend

Seven options ranged from:

  • I want to focus on my work but appear to have a relationship.
  • It’s better for my co-workers to think I’m in a relationship. One of my co-workers won’t leave me alone.
  • My parents are constantly nagging me about not being in a relationship. I just want them to stop.
  • All of my friends are in relationship, and I feel left out.
  • I want to make my ex jealous.
  • I’m not ready to tell my family that I’m LGBTQ.
  • I’m a journalist or a reporter, and I just want to see what it’s all about.

I chose the first one to state that my work was a priority.

12. List your interests

I selected:

  • Books because I’m an author and avid reader
  • Theater because I’m always ready to go
  • Classical music because I play the piano
  • Volunteering because I support several charities in Los Angeles
  • Fitness and working out because I exercise five days a week to stay in shape for my invisible boyfriend
  • Writing because I’m a writer
  • Fashion because I love to dress up for my guy

13. What’s your number?

This is where it’s time to step up the digital plate and put in your phone number for all of those mushy text messages you would suddenly start to receive.

Within seconds of confirming, my first text arrived from Richard saying, “Hey, Julie! This is Richard 🙂 How are you?”

We flirted like crazy for our 10-message limit. Just before the last text, I let him know it was time to break up. For those who need to continue and can’t let go, you can have 100 more texts exchanged for $9.99.

Would you create a fake boyfriend or girlfriend while you’re in between relationships?

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