I Have a New Profile On a Dating Site. How Do I Start?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh is the author of "The 30-Day Love Detox"" (April 2013).

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles and reports have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement.

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Reader Question:

I am 65 years old and have not dated in years, not even a casual date. I am so lonely. I guess I don’t turn heads anymore. I don’t feel that I am that ugly. I have started my profile on one of the dating sites.

Should I write a “GRAYING'” profile? How do I start?

-Alberta (Alabama)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Glad you asked. There is an art to online dating. When writing your profile, be as honest and authentic as possible while still showcasing your assets. The biggest mistake is people try to be the person they think most people want. But then you end up being bland and not pleasing anyone.

It’s better to appear completely unattractive to 70 percent of the men online and really attractive to 30 percent than to be moderately attractive to 100 percent. Trying to please everyone means you’re not going to passionately energize anyone.

And one final thought for the over 50 crowd – your best bets for peer men are on OurTime.com. Take your photos in natural light doing the hobbies you’d like to share with a man. The photo doesn’t have to be glamorous, just friendly and real.

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