Guide To Online Dating Bios

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Crafting a Compelling Online Dating Bio: A Comprehensive Guide

Anggi Pradhini

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Anggi Pradhini

Anggi Pradhini is a professional copywriter who creates unique, engaging, and up-to-date content for DatingAdvice.com. As a former stockbroker turned professional writer, she loves to challenge herself to broaden her horizons and improve her skills, one article at a time. After learning from the breakups of three long-term relationships, she dedicated her life to providing informative and relatable content about relationships and dating for those who need it.

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Getting dates online should be an easy task: Swipe right, get a match, chat, and then meet in person. Modern matchmaking is more convenient than ever, and you are almost guaranteed a date in a matter of weeks.

But millions of active online daters seek matches in the United States, and you must compete with them to get others’ attention.

Your profile pictures may catch someone’s attention, but your bio provides the details that spark conversation. This article shows you how to create a compelling bio for your dating profile.

What to Say | The Dos & Don’ts | Final Touches

What to Say

What you write in your bio, combined with a good profile picture, represents your first impression in online dating. Put serious thought into your bio to highlight your personality and attract the right matches.

From my adventures as an online dater, I’ve found that the worst bio you can choose for your profile is something like:

  • “I’m a simple man.”
  • “Not sure what to say about myself.”

Saying that you’re a simple man or woman doesn’t highlight anything special about your personality.

As for the second example, nobody has time to date someone who can’t even say something nice about themselves.

If you want to act like Mr. or Ms. Mysterious with a one-sentence bio, forget it. People are busy. You have less than five seconds to catch someone’s attention, so make it count. 

Infuse storytelling into your bio. People love stories, and they always want to know more about you.

To create stories about your personality, here are some components you must include in your bio.

Opening Line

On dating apps, you’re competing with many people to capture daters’ interest. When someone stops scrolling to check on your profile pictures, your bio opening line should hook them right away.

Using humor can be a good move as long as you don’t try too hard.

Personality Showcase

Before you write your bio, think about the unique traits and interests you want to highlight in your profile. The limited space bios provide means you can’t elaborate on your life story.

That means you must snapshot your personality to entice people to chat with you.

State Your Intentions

To have a good online dating experience, state your intention from the get-go. If you’re looking for a serious partner, you want to repel those hookup seekers.

You can indicate in a catchy way whether you’re looking for a long-term partner, casual dating, or a one-night stand. That way, when someone decides to talk to you, they know what to expect.

Thanks to AI, you don’t need to start from scratch. Using ChatGPT, you can get rough ideas of what your bio will look like. 

You can use this prompt: ”Write me an opening line for an online dating bio that grabs attention and is funny. The personality I want to highlight: I like the gym, am an introvert, and love music. I’m looking for a long-term partner. Use the storytelling aspect to spice up the bio.”

This is the result I got from ChatGPT:

Once upon a time, in a land of dumbbells and playlists, a gym-loving introvert searched for a long-term partner to join their epic quest of Netflix marathons and late-night jam sessions. Could you be my co-star?

That’s much better than starting from a blank page, right?

You can (and should) tweak the result to fit your personality. There’s no right or wrong method when it comes to writing your bio as long as you’re being true to yourself. Enjoy the process! Maybe look at some good profile examples to get some inspiration.

Dos and Don’ts of Online Bios

Creating a stand-out online dating bio is like walking a tightrope — one misstep, and you might miss your chance to connect with someone special. Here’s a list of essential dos and don’ts as guidance.

Do #1. Be Authentic and Honest

People question everything on the internet these days.

That’s why it’s crucial to start your online dating journey by being authentic and honest. Once someone senses that something is off, you rarely get a second chance.

Being genuine in your bio attracts compatible matches. If you’re sassy, show it!

You may get fewer conversations than if you played it safe, but those who do chat will accept you for who you are.

Do #2. Attract the Right People

If you project a certain persona in your dating profile to get a conversation and coffee date, your date may fall in love with that imaginary person. If you’re just dating casually, it may seem fun pretending to be a character in a movie.

But if you’re seeking a long-term partner, this approach will cause trouble down the line. The persona will crumble, your match won’t appreciate the charade, and you will end up at square one.

When you are yourself from the start, you will attract people who are compatible with your traits and lifestyle. It may take some time, but once you find that person, hopefully, you’re set for life.

Relationships work best when you and your match have a clear understanding of each other.

Do #3. Demonstrate Confidence

Authenticity shows confidence, which makes you attractive to others with similar traits. This move will save you lots of time that you would otherwise have spent connecting with unsuitable people.

Do #4. Showcase Your Interests

Shared interests and passions can set your relationship on a good foundation. A friend of mine found his soulmate, who shares his same hobby, and now they travel anytime they can.

I, on the other hand, deliberately choose not to have conversations with travel junkies. I’m looking for a Netflix-and-chill type of guy because I’m a homebody.

Showcasing your interests, hobbies, or passions in your bio will save time.  People can decide whether you sound like someone they’ll immediately hit it off with.

Plus, it works as a conversation starter so you don’t need to field boring questions about work or your education.

Do #5. Keep It Concise

These days, online daters have shorter attention spans than goldfish.

If you write a big block of text, people will skim it — or skip it. Keep your bio concise to show that you respect the reader’s time.

Your bio’s number one purpose is to attract people to your inbox.

New people must be able to understand the main aspects of your personality in a short amount of time.

Avoid lengthy sentences or complex language; clarity is more important than cleverness.

Do #6. Use Positive Language

Positive language will attract positive people to you and set the stage for positive and fulfilling connections. Nobody wants to hang out with a Debbie Downer type of personality.

That’s why you must use positive language in your online dating bio.

I once chatted with a problematic guy on Bumble. From his profile, I could tell that he had been cheated on. He even wrote something like, “Don’t even think about cheating on me. I’ll know!”

Getting cheated on is unfortunate, but that doesn’t give you the right to threaten others for no reason. It shouldn’t surprise you to hear that I moved on to the next profile right away.

The lesson here is don’t vent your anger in your bio.

If you have some homework you need to do by yourself, then do it. Otherwise, your bad experience will drag you down for life. It’s not worth it!

Don’t #1. Employ Clichés and Generic Phrases

Clichés and generic phrases make your bio blend in with countless others. Be unique, using specific details that reflect your personality.

A well-crafted bio shows that you’ve put thought and effort into presenting yourself. It reveals that you’re serious about finding a new connection. If you don’t bother to spend time creating a thoughtful bio, why should others bother with you?

Let’s look at real examples of clichés and generic phrases and how to rewrite them.

Cliché: “I love to have fun.”

Unique phrase: “I love exploring new hiking trails and finding hidden gems in the city.”

Cliché: “I’m down to earth.”

Unique phrase: “Passionate about sustainability and always looking for new ways to reduce my carbon footprint.”

Cliché: “I enjoy long walks on the beach.”

Unique phrase: “Enjoying evening strolls by the lake and trying out new recipes.”

From these examples, you can see how unique phrases make a deep impression. They’ll lead to conversations with someone who vibes with your bio. 

Don’t #2. Veer Into Negativity or Bitterness

First impressions matter greatly in the online dating scene.

To create a good first impression, you must steer clear of negativity or bitterness in your bio. Give people a reason to engage with your profile and want to learn more about you; you can do this by showing that you’re someone who uplifts the atmosphere.

We all have challenges in life, but keeping positive vibes shows our emotional maturity in handling our past. 

Here are some examples of negativity or bitterness to avoid:

  • “Tired of all the drama and games.”
  • “No liars, cheaters, or time-wasters.”
  • “I’ve had enough of failed relationships.”

Here are positive alternatives:

  • “Looking for someone who values honesty and open communication.”
  • “Appreciate kindness, humor, and a positive outlook on life.”
  • “Ready to build something meaningful with the right person.”

The latter examples sound more inviting for conversation. They also show that you’re an awesome person to hang out with.

Don’t #3. Share Personal Information

Safety is always a concern in online dating. One must-do for online daters is to avoid oversharing personal information. My rule is to never share my address, work, or financial information.

When someone asks about my job, I give the industry and job title but never mention my office address.

If I’m about to meet in person, I usually pick an area that I’m familiar with. People often ask where I live, and I mention an area one block away from my real address.

Most people I meet through online dating apps already know this rule. I don’t mind if they’re vague at first. Once we meet in person, they usually open up and share more about their personalities.

Experience has taught me that intentionally mentioning one’s exact location is a red flag. Some scammers mention high-profile jobs, such as with oil and gas companies, to lure their victims.

The pattern many online dating scammers use in conversation is to ask a lot about the victim and provide little information about themselves in return. Once I notice something is questionable, I block the profile and move on.

Don’t #4. Have Unrealistic Expectations

I used to think online dating sites and apps were magic tools for finding the love of your life. Later, I learned that they’re only tools to help you meet someone new in the modern dating era.

Therefore, you must set realistic expectations. Everyone you meet on an online dating app is a stranger. You can’t expect them to be the love of your life from the get-go.

If they don’t reply to your message promptly, that doesn’t mean they’re not interested. Keep a positive mindset toward your potential match, and enjoy your love quest.

On an online dating app, filters can be your best friend in narrowing down your choices. You can filter your matches based on a certain age bracket, education, religion, etc., to better meet your expectations. But you also need to be flexible and open to meeting someone outside your ideal filter.

For example, most women have a “Must be over six feet tall, have a six-figure salary, and own a house” filter in the back of their minds. But is that necessary?

When you focus on the right things, you’ll have a better chance of meeting new people outside superficial criteria. This way, you can find meaningful connections that lead to happy and healthy relationships

Fine-Tuning Your Bio: The Final Touches

You’ve finished the core of your online dating bio, showcasing your personality, interests, and intentions. Now, it’s time to hit the ground running. Hit the save button, check your dating app daily, and see what your bio does for your dating profile.

For best results, treat your bio like a living document that evolves based on your experiences in the online dating game. Here are some tips to keep your bio fresh and engaging.

Seek Feedback

The most effective way to enhance your bio is to ask for feedback from someone you trust. If you’re a man seeking to date women, ask a female friend’s opinion of your bio. If you’re a woman, ask a male friend to look your bio over.

It’s even better if the friend who gives you feedback has the same characteristics as someone you want to date. It’s like when you want to start a business: You should ask for feedback from someone who represents your future customer rather than getting feedback from your mom.

Asking for feedback can be intimidating because it opens you up to criticism. Yet, it’s better to receive constructive feedback from someone you already know than to face harsh realities in your dating experiences later.

Continuously Update

If you play your cards right, after three months, you should have enough data from your online dating adventure to do some analysis. These questions will help you gain clarity on how things are working:

  • Am I attracting the type of matches I’m interested in?
  • Did I enjoy the conversations I’ve had with my matches?
  • Have I had any meaningful connections or dates from my online interactions?

Those three questions should give you a rough idea of how to improve your game.

If you don’t get a match, maybe you need to change your profile photo.

If you feel your conversation is too vanilla, use a more exciting bio.

If you aren’t meeting people who have the same expectations as you, it might be a good idea to try another online dating platform.

Add Visuals (Even Just Emojis) Wherever Possible 

Your dating profile is basically a romantic CV, but it shouldn’t look like your LinkedIn profile. Add emojis and other elements to enhance your profile and have fun with your bio.

If you can make other people smile by reading your bio, that’s a good start.

On the practical side, adding emojis will make your bio pop. It breaks up blocks of text and is more visually appealing. Use your best judgment when deciding which emoji to add – and stay away from eggplants, gents.

Don’t overdo it with too many smiley emojis. You don’t want your bio to look like it was written by a kindergartener, and people generally don’t have time to play guessing games in your profile.

An Online Dating Bio Can Inspire New Matches

Crafting a compelling online dating bio is a key step in attracting the right matches and connecting with the right people. The tips and guidelines in this article, provide everything you need to create a bio that works for you.

At the end of the day, writing an online dating bio is about trial and error. Don’t overthink this process; you can always make changes in the future. Happy dating!