I Want to Meet a Nice Man. Where are the Best Places to Do This?

I Want To Meet A Nice Man Where Are The Best Places To Do This
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Brian Rzepczynski
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Reader Question:

I am a senior male (68) and a virgin in the gay community. For several years now, I have dreamed of having my virginity taken.

How and where are the best places to meet for this encounter? I want to meet a nice, kind and gentle man.

-Ray (Washington)

Brian Rzepczynski’s Answer:

Hi Ray!

While sex is plentiful for gay men online, at bathhouses and with escorts, these settings can be fraught with risk. The first time should be special and shared with someone who will be caring and respectful.

Therefore, in addition to reading books on gay sexuality and safer sex practices to help prepare you for what’s to come, I advocate spending more energy seeking compatible dating partners where sexuality will be a natural expression of how you feel about each other with someone who wants to be with you for you.

This makes for the hottest sex and an amazing first time that will certainly hold a great memory for you. All the best!


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Brian Rzepczynski

By: Brian Rzepczynski

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Brian holds a doctorate degree in human sexuality from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, a master’s degree in clinical social work from Western Michigan University, and is a Board Certified Diplomate & Sexologist through the American Board of Sexology. He has been working in the field for more than 33 years as a private practice psychotherapist and runs an international coaching business for gay men that focuses on dating, relationships, and sexuality, and also has experience teaching in higher education. He is a member of the National Association of Social Workers, Relationship Coaching Institute, The International Association of Coaches, and The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists.

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