Sex Education is the First Step to Better Sex

The Short Version: Your burning questions about sex deserve answers. That’s where Beducated comes in. The online platform offers guides, courses, and videos about all things sex and sexuality, with a strong foundation in pleasure-based comprehensive sex education.

If you want to have better sex, whether that means more empowered sex, more pleasurable sex, or more connected sex– you’ve got to educate yourself first. Pleasure-based comprehensive sex education is one of the most important factors in the development of healthy sexuality, yet is often extraordinarily difficult to find. 

Comprehensive sex education is not widely available in the United States, and most of us were not exposed to holistic or pleasure-based sex ed in school, if we were exposed to any kind of sex ed at all (sex ed at my high school consisted of abstinence-only in 2014). 

If I were to share my most lasting impression of my formal sex ed experience, it wouldn’t be relaying how to put on a condom or explaining how to avoid STDs. It would be the pixelated image of a distressed pregnant teenager on a stark white PowerPoint slide, friendless and jobless, and beneath her image in Comic Sans: “You don’t want to be like her.”

What a darling message to send to teenagers about their sexuality.

Sarcasm aside, most of us haven’t been given the information we need about sex and our sexualities. And the way I see it, information about our bodies and our minds, and how they work, isn’t a privilege. It’s a right.

We talked to Mariah Freya, the founder of Beducated, an online platform offering comprehensive sex education resources, classes, videos, and more. Mariah created the platform out of a desire to bring people the resources she desperately wished she had.

“Beducated is a digital platform that brings pleasure-based sex education straight to the bedroom,” Mariah said. “Our extensive library boasts 100+ online courses on everything from basic oral sex guides to rope-bondage tutorials, all produced by the world’s top experts.”

Mariah’s journey to creating Beducated is a personal one. “In my early 20s sex ranked very low on my priority list,” she said. “I had experienced sexual assault multiple times, which led to low libido and painful sex.”

According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, 81% of women and 43% of men report experiencing sexual harassment and/or assault in their lifetime. Sexual assault wrecks devastation on both the body and mind, and the trauma that assault causes can impact every aspect of a person’s well-being, not just their sexual function.

After assault and trauma, the importance of comprehensive sex education is only amplified. It can become part of the process of healing from sexual assault or rape, empowering survivors with the information they need to reclaim their sexualities and hold space for their experiences. 

“This resulted in a libido mismatch, causing significant challenges in my long-term relationship with my husband, Phil,” Mariah said. “Instead of accepting the status quo, we decided to work with therapists and coaches and attended workshops.”

Mariah said along this journey of healing and education, she realized that there was no reason she should settle for anything less than an extraordinary sex life.

“I originally trained as a social worker, naturally gravitating toward empowerment tools that help individuals reach their full potential,” Mariah said. 

“After seeing the positive effects sex education had on my life and relationship– gaining sexual energy and fresh inspiration, feeling more confident, and becoming more grounded– I realized that sex education for adults could benefit others as well.”

With that, Beducated was born. Mariah and Phil, who have been together since 2007, founded the platform together to bring people high-quality and trusted information about sex. They envisioned a safe space where people could learn from the comfort of their homes with accessible and affordable teachings. 

Soon, the platform began collaborating with renowned sex and relationship experts, who’ve helped them develop the more than 100 courses available on Beducated. 

No two people’s experience of sexuality and sex is the same. That’s why it’s very important for sex education resources to be inclusive, diverse, and mindful of all the different ways humans experience sex. 

“According to the World Health Organization, sex education is a human right that has a direct impact on our well-being,” Mariah told us. 

“So, everyone, no matter their background, orientation, or gender, deserves access to information that helps them navigate their sexual experiences in a healthy and consensual way.”

Fortunately, the internet has empowered the average digital citizen to have access to an unprecedented level of information about sex and sexuality. But we all know that online resources are not created equally, and you need to be careful where you go to learn about sexuality and find resources to improve your sex life.

“The future of sexual education is shifting toward a more holistic and inclusive approach, integrating aspects of wellness like biohacking, physical fitness, and mental well-being,” Mariah said. “In uncertain times, many view improving their sex lives as a luxury. But it’s actually one of the most fundamental and empowering aspects of the human experience.”

Learning about sexual function and your sexuality is more than an optional endeavor. Health professionals agree that healthy sexuality is essential for a healthy mind and body, and we have to dispel the notion that a desire to improve our sex lives is somehow superfluous. 

So, if you’re ready to start learning about sex and improving your sex life, Beducated is the place to start. Mariah walked us through some of her favorite offerings on the platform, plus some of the most popular courses and resources.

“We emphasize the importance of communication in almost all the courses,” Mariah said. “It’s the common thread that runs throughout sex education. Developing the ability to share your needs, desires, and fantasies—as well as the things you don’t like—is a fundamental skill for any advanced practice.”

That means if you’re exploring the course about blowjobs or cunnilingus, you’ll also be learning the necessary listening skills needed to tune into your own desires and your partner’s and verbalize those desires. 

Mariah gave us an example. If you and your partner are exploring kink, before you get into any of the play, a lot of communication has to happen first. You have to set rules, establish boundaries, and align expectations– it’s all a part of the process toward more empowered sex.

If you’re working through Beducated courses with your partner, the journey is going to bring you closer on every level. While the courses are geared toward sex, like Mariah said, it’s all about communication and connection. 

“Beducated is preparing for a future where sexual health is seen as a vital part of overall well-being,” Mariah said. “We update our content to reflect the latest research, and remain committed to fostering an inclusive, forward-thinking approach to sexual health and intimacy.”