5 Things Only Single Senior Women Can Understand

Senior Dating

5 Things Only Single Senior Women Can Understand

April Braswell

Written by: April Braswell

April Braswell

April Braswell is a senior dating expert, dating coach and professional dating profile writer. She leads dating, relationship and communication skills workshops throughout California.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Now that the clock has turned and you are over 50 years old, you have surely noticed how dating is different.

Thank goodness you’re not 20 years old, ladies, and hitting the singles bars. That’s not where men over 40, 50 and 60 are.

What’s better now? You know what it really takes to find mature love!

1. This is the body you’ve got 

Body acceptance has fully kicked in. This is the body you’ve got. Embrace it.

No longer can you even conceive of going braless in an expression of feminist freedom.

Trinny Woodall and Susannah Constantine, as well as Stacy London and Clinton Kelly, have all taught you underwire and good construction providing support, hoist and lift are all your friends now.

That doesn’t mean you have to compromise on sex appeal. You can have great-looking, feminine bras and knickers in fabulous colors.

Secondarily, you can look great, maybe even better, after 50. Baby boomer women are more likely to be fit and participate in some kind of fitness regime than early generations, from yoga and pilates, to dance classes and Zumba.

It’s your body! Love it!

2. Dating takes longer 

The mating process from first meeting to when he asks you out takes longer, sometimes lots longer than it did when you were 25 years old.

The senior dating pace, let alone meeting men in their 50s and 60s, just seems to take longer now.

And that’s OK!

You’re not in the same rush a 30-year-old single woman is to get married due to her biological clock ticking.

You can take your time to meet the right man and build a marvelous relationship for this phase of life.

3. Being real attracts more men than being a diva

Sure men over 50 want a woman to dress up and look extra special for the closing night of the symphony season.

Yes, he’s expecting you to wear a sophisticated, feminine cocktail dress when you attend the city opera together.

Other than that, he really is happy to see you in comfortable clothes, so long as your appearance is attractive.

The relationship-motivated man wants a mate who has a down-to-earth side with whom he can kick back and share the fun things in life. He’s not looking for a daily spa-using, high-maintenance woman.

You’re just perfect for him now. Phew! What a relief. You can relax!

4. You get asked out to lunch… a lot

While you lose out on certain body language signals by meeting for the first time in bright daylight, a lot of baby boomer men prefer the casualness of a lunch date for a first date.

What’s nice with these lunch dates is often he invites you to some marvelous, locally-owned restaurant you might never have tried before.

The food is often delicious and flavorful, and you don’t have to rush out the door at exactly 60 minutes because of the next dinner seating.

Sometimes men are just being less aggressive than when they were 27 years old. And that’s OK because that would exhausting now, wouldn’t it?

5. You have to make love a priority

You know after 50 you really do have to make an effort.

Maybe your girlfriends have kind of given up on looking for a mature boyfriend and life companion now that they’re over 50 and 60.

They bought into the idea that there are just fewer single men in their 50s and 60s – but not you!

You decided you were going to be one of the women who found love again at midlife and who others envy.

You looked in the mirror, updated your hair and makeup, gave your wardrobe some sprucing up and made an effort to do a variety of activities to meet people. You posted a dating profile online and reached out to men there.

But not just that, you used real-world activities to get out and have a fun and engaging social life.

And guess what? All your efforts paid off! You’re meeting new men and going on dates. You’re feeling hopeful, sparkling and just a bit pleased with yourself, aren’t you?

You have the sense that love with the right man is just around the corner. Who knows? Maybe you’ll meet him this year? Maybe you already have!

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