Finding The Receptive Women At The Bar

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Finding the Receptive Women at the Bar

Robert Rodriguez

Written by: Robert Rodriguez

Robert Rodriguez

I am a dating and self-actualization coach based in Austin, Texas. I have trained with some of the best in the seduction industry. My areas of expertise include dating, online dating, body language, meeting in bars, text game and inner game. You can send me an email at

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It’s a pretty important skill to be able to identify receptive women at a bar.

There have been many times when I have walked into a bar, spotted the most receptive women and ended up making out with them within less than a minute of saying hi to them.

There are two aspects to spotting receptive women in a bar. The first is knowing the signs and the second is having the reference experiences to be able to be more aware of the signs.

Here are the main girls you want to look out for:

1. The sexy girl

The sexy girl is probably buzzed and dancing or acting silly. There is not logic behind what is going on. She is just letting losse but also has the intention of guys approaching her and taking initiative physically.

This girl has opened up her sexuality and inhibitions and is willing to let you come into her personal space and take the lead. With escalation, you have a chance of taking this girl home.

2. The “save me” girl

This girl is facing away from her group or has physically distanced herself from her group. She is usually staring at her phone and has positioned herself in a place where she is very visible like a doorway.

This is one of the easiest girls to approach as long as you have at least average conversation abilities and you are normal.

However, these girls can also shoot you down if you come at them at a lower level of game than they are waiting for. She’s bored and wishing for a guy to come save her from her group.

“Recognizing the types of girls

will help you be more aware.”

3. The hunter

The hunter usually comes with a friend who is helping her on her hunt. I have seen where girls come in pairs of two. One of them is trying to get laid while the friend is helping her find guys who will fit the requirements.

You will usually see them approaching men together and flirting with different men. The girl who is trying to get laid will show strong intent like hard eye contact.

In order to get this girl, you have to set a sexual tone and be physically engaging. You also have to match her intent of going home with her that night. Many times these girls go home empty handed.

When I first noticed the phenomenon of the hunter, it was very interesting because men usually aren’t aware that women do this.

4. The friendly girl

The friendly girl is smiling and having fun. She is warm and willing to talk to you. These are the easiest girls to start a chat with. You have a good chance of getting their number also.

However, beware because this girl is definitely having fun and may just give you her number without any meaning behind it.

You will want to push things a little bit in the physical direction and pull some personal details out of her so she feels some kind of connection for you.

5. The tag-along girl

This girl is usually with her group of friends and moves with them as a group.

She may be open to being approached, but you will have to befriend her group first before having a chance at talking with her. Otherwise, she will get ripped away during conversation.

Once her friends are comfortable with you, you can have a one-to-one conversation with her.

A quick concept that is helpful for finding who is open to you in the bar is pinging. You can do high fives, toasts or quick smiles in order to see which girls will return your gesture.

This is a quick way to get inventory of the room and raise your social presence.

Recognizing the types of girls listed here will help you be more aware when you enter a bar. Add some experience to the mix and you’ll be a pro at spotting receptive girls fast.

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