Looking for Group Sex?

Does group sex turn you on? Have you talked to your partner about getting it on with a third (or a fourth)?

Where do you find other people who are into the same experience as you?

One way is to identify people you already know that might be interested in the idea of joining you both in the bedroom.

Do either of you have a close friend that exudes sexual energy? Does sexual tension permeate the relationship? Does this person have an open mind and a sense of exploration and adventure?

If you do decide to invite a friend, make sure to have a conversation about what everyone’s expectations are for the friendship after group sex is over.

How will the experience impact the friendship? Is it OK if group sex happens again? Can the relationship evolve into something with emotional or romantic connections?

If you and your partner enjoy going out and checking out people together, maybe you should try picking up people together!

As someone who has extremely minimal experience picking people up, I don’t know how well this works. You may have more positive experiences doing this if you are in a sex-positive, open relationship space.

“Reach out to individuals that spark your

interest in a respectful and genuine way.”

If you are blessed to be in an area with a swingers club or an active sex-positive/open/polyamorous community, it can be really helpful to attend events hosted by people in those communities.

Meeting people in person can help normalize your experience of seeking a third and establish emotional and mental connections online browsing may not stimulate.

People you approach will probably understand the experience you are seeking to have, as opposed to someone in a “vanilla” bar or club.

Craigslist (typically under Casual Encounters), OKCupid, Plenty of Fish and other websites allow you to peruse personals. Regardless of the online option you explore, make sure to engage in safe Internet practices.

And I would recommend reaching out to individuals that spark your interest in a respectful and genuine way. Meet up casually in person to see if you hit it off before assuming you are going to have the threesome of a lifetime.

From my experience, one of the most difficult threesomes to arrange comes in the form of a couple seeking another woman. This arrangement is so difficult that couples refer to these women as “unicorns.”

One of the easiest (in my experience) is a man and woman couple seeking another man.

If you are a single woman wanting to meet a sexy couple, you will have your pick! Online lifestyle (swinger) sites are flush with couples looking for women.

If you are a single man, you will have a more challenging time, as there is a much larger pool of single men who have a presence within the swinger community.

However, if you are seeking another couple to have group sex with, this is fairly easy to do, depending on where you live. This also provides you all an opportunity to have threesomes within the foursome, as long as everyone is comfortable with that.

In fact, this may satisfy your desire for experiencing group sex and threesomes in various combinations.

If you are man and woman couple and you click with another man and woman couple, the four of you could potentially decide on different group sex arrangements so everyone can experience a foursome, a MMF threesome or a FFM threesome at different times.

Readers, have you ever had group sex? Where do you find the right people?