The Real Reason Why Youre Still Single

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The Real Reason Why You’re Still Single

Ty Knighten

Written by: Ty Knighten

Ty Knighten

Named as one of the Top 100 Blogs by Relationship Experts, Ty Knighten knows a thing or two about relationships and dating. A single mom from Calif., Ty decided to turn her experiences in love and relationships into a blog. Written with plenty of sass, her mission is to help women empower themselves to realize love, success and confidence through her articles. She writes about dating and relationships from the perspective of a single mom but adds insights that will help women and men as they maneuver through the confusing world of dating and relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Single ladies, we may not have ever uttered the words aloud, but we have asked ourselves the question time and time again: “Why can’t I find (or keep) a man?”

Many of us have come up with the answer: “Because all the good men are taken.”

Is that REALLY our excuse?

If we were being honest with ourselves and took a moment to evaluate our past relationships, many times it was US and not him that caused the relationship to end, or at least we played some part in it.

As hard as it is to evaluate ourselves, it becomes necessary when trying to figure out why we can’t keep a man.

If we don’t, we are doomed to continue making the same mistakes in our relationships over and over again.

It may not be one single thing we are doing wrong. It may just be the type of personality characteristics we have that determine the type of women we are in a relationship.

Here I have listed the most common characteristics of women when they are in relationships and how their personalities are damaging those relationships.

1. The People Pleaser Woman.

You want to make everyone around you happy, especially the men in your life. You bend over backward to help him, even if it means sacrificing your own happiness.

You are a pushover and a doormat. Men do and say what they want to you without any repercussions.

Women who are people pleasers are usually abused by men because they lack self-esteem. They have a fear of being abandoned and are easily disappointed by criticism.

They cater to the men in their lives and often put their needs above their own. They have a fear of men leaving them if they don’t do the things they ask them to.

2. The Insecure Woman.

This type of woman has low self-esteem and doesn’t think she is worthy of a good man, thus she makes poor choices in the men she deals with.

She often settles for whatever she can get, which is usually a man who is no good for her. She needs to be validated and constantly told she is beautiful because she doesn’t think she is.

She is very jealous. Because of this jealousy, she is very suspicious of her mate and men in general. Oftentimes, she jumps to conclusions based on that jealousy.

These types of women are attention-seekers and are often the girls you see in the club twerking in front of men to get attention.

By seeking out attention, they attract the wrong types of men – those who are only interested in one thing.

3. The Cow Woman.

Before you start sending me comments for calling a woman a cow, I am referring to the saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?”

Now, let me continue…This is the woman who allows men to get ALL the milk for free. She plays the role of a wife, doing everything a wife would do without the benefits and title.

This type of woman can either live with her man or have her own place.

She does his laundry, cooks for him, cleans up after him, takes care of his kids, shops for him and (of course) has sex with him whenever he wants it.

This type of woman has in her mind that if she does all these things for a man, she is showing him what she can do as a wife.

Unfortunately, she rarely gets wife’d up.

4. The Got My Stuff Together Woman.

This is the woman who on the “outside” has it all together. She’ll tell you, “I don’t need a man for anything,” because she has a good job, her own house and a nice car.

She is paying all her bills and holds it down by herself. She often attracts the man who is below her level and she needs a man with all the things she has because he has little to none of them.

She may end up being with a man who allows her to wear the pants in the relationship, however it probably won’t work for long because she will feel like he has no backbone.

“Before you point fingers at men, identify

your personality and make a change.”

5. The Alpha Dominate Woman.

She is very aggressive and runs the show. She is used to controlling everything, including the men she is with. She is competitive and believes there is not a badder bitch than herself.

She is persistent, determined and goes after what she wants, including men. She has a hard time finding a man and will tell people when asked that she hasn’t found a man “worthy” of her.

When in a relationship, she makes the decisions and rarely listens to the men she dates because she “knows it all” and their opinions don’t matter to her anyway.

She often scares men away because she is so critical, and instead of trying to work with her mate, she is too busy issuing him commands.

The alpha dominate woman oftentimes finds herself alone or divorced because she wants to be the “man” in the relationship.

This woman can also be the “Got My Stuff Together” woman.

6. The Multiple Personality Woman.

This is the woman who goes from hot to cold in a matter of minutes. One minute she is so in love with you and the next she barely likes you.

She wants to have sex, but moments into the act, she doesn’t want you to touch her anymore. Men don’t know how to deal with (much less) respond to this type of woman.

She is happy in one moment and the next she is cussing him out and shoving him out the door.

A man does not want to deal with this type of woman, and even a man who is a loser will walk away.

7. The I Can’t Trust Any Man Woman.

She has been burned so many times by men that she has lost count. She wants to find love but finds it hard to believe anything men say. She is more often than not also the insecure woman.

This is the type of woman who checks his phone when he is asleep and goes on his Facebook page to see if any one particular woman is responding too many times to his posts.

She has driven by his house to see if he is “really” at home and popped up when he is out with his friends.

The problem with this woman is she damages every relationship she is in because she has trust issues.

She will have to let down her guard and realize that not every man is trying to hurt her or is up to no good.

8. The Needy Woman.

You know her: She needs a man for EVERYTHING. This woman is usually overly emotional and has to be with her man 24/7.

When he is not with her, she calls and texts excessively. She has to know where he is, what he’s doing and who he’s with.

This woman usually lacks confidence and often compares herself to other women.

She will go through relationships quickly because most men will not deal with her, at least not in the long term.

9. The Grass May Be Greener Woman.

She could have a great guy who is totally into her but is scared to commit because she thinks there may be a “better” guy out there.

She feels like if she commits to the guy she is with, she may miss the “next big thing.” She may not leave the guy she is with, but she will test the waters with a guy she thinks has it going on.

This woman is often a cheater and holds onto the guy that is good to her. However, she wants to still be “out there.”

She is not happy with a guy unless he can hold her attention…all of the time. When she feels like he isn’t giving her the attention she desires, “onto the next one” is her motto.

She remains friends with most of her exes because she never knows when she may want to try to “get back” with them.

She ruins her relationships because she always finds something lacking in the men she dates and thinks someone else will have those qualities.

10. The Gotta Help Him Woman.

This is the woman who takes in the stray dogs (I mean, men). She thinks she can help men get on their feet. These women are attracted to losers but will claim he has potential.

They move him in, clean him up, buy him clothes and give him money. They treat men like “projects” and take great pleasure in helping them out and getting them together.

These women take great pleasure in a man “needing” them.

They show him off to their friends, but little do they know most men after they are “helped out” take all of the things they gave them in an effort to “get him on his feet” and run off with his “now together self” to the next woman.

Ladies, if any or several of these characteristics describe you, as many are interchangeable, I would advise you to reevaluate yourself in relationships and really dig in to figure out why you are this way.

Maybe you can find a good therapist to work through your issues. Regardless of what you decide to do, the first step is identifying you have an issue.

Before you begin to point fingers at the men you have dealt with, use this list to identify your personality and decide to make a change…today!

Ladies, are you still single? Why do you think that is? Do you recognize yourself in any of these women?

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