Tired Of Dating The Wrong Guys Follow These 3 Shortcuts

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Tired of Dating the Wrong Guys? Follow These 3 Shortcuts

Susie & Otto Collins

Written by: Susie & Otto Collins

Susie & Otto Collins

Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors as well as soul mates, best friends and lovers. Since 1999, Susie and Otto have been sharing their message with men and women all over the globe about how to attract love and keep the spark alive. They are the authors of "Automatic Attraction Secrets," "Magic Relationship Words," "No More Jealousy" and many other books, audios and programs. Find out how to create and keep a happy and lasting love relationship with Susie and Otto Collins’ free ebook "Passionate Spark~Lasting Love."

Edited by: Amber Brooks

Amber Brooks

Amber Brooks is a dating and relationship expert who has penned over 1,800 lifestyle articles in the last decade, and she still never tires of interviewing dating professionals and featuring actionable advice for singles. She has been quoted by the Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, and AskMen.

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Are you tired of dating men who are completely NOT right for you? Men who are jerks. Men who don’t text back promptly. Men who only want no-strings-attached sex.

Or maybe the guys you attract are very nice guys…just not a  perfect match for you. The hardcore sports fan when you can’t stand sports. The sweet but insecure guy who smothers you with too much attention. The macho man constantly trying to prove how much he can bench press. There are a lot of types of guys who are right for other types of girls, but maybe not your cup of tea.

It’s wonderful there are so many unique people in the world. You’d just like to meet and create a serious relationship with a good man who is interesting, attractive, and shares some of your interests and values. Not a huge ask, right?

After the bad dates you’ve been on and the toxic relationships you’ve had in the past, perhaps this is starting to seem impossible!

Want to know how to quickly attract the kind of guy you REALLY want to date?

First, stop telling yourself it’s impossible, and then try these shortcuts:

1. Know what you’re looking for.

If you’ve had enough disappointing dating experiences to last a lifetime, that’s a good thing. It’s valuable to know what you do not want.

Sift through your past dating disasters and pay attention to the patterns. Use this research to get clearer about what you DO want.

It’s important to stay open and not reject a potential date just because he doesn’t look like your ideal guy, but do spend some time thinking about what you appreciate, admire, and find attractive in a man.

“The more you enjoy the process, the

more success you’ll have with love.”

2. Know you deserve what you want.

You may tell yourself you are attractive and a “great catch,” but do you really believe it?

Low self-esteem or insecurity can come through in some strange ways, but it does come through.

The way you talk, walk, hold your body, and how you let others treat you indicates how much (or little) you believe you deserve to have a great date and healthy relationship.

Develop a strong sense of self-esteem and value who you are — let your awesomeness shine!

3. Make feeling great your top priority.

The ultimate shortcut when attracting a good match is to ask yourself this: “Am I having fun?”

Don’t overthink it. When you’re interacting with a person, check in with yourself to see if you feel good and are enjoying yourself.

If you are having fun, then keep talking, dancing, or whatever you two are doing together — and see where it leads. Keep expectations down.

The more you can enjoy the process and be present in the moment, the more success you’ll have with attracting love.