To Meet Great Men Focus On Yourself And 4 More Ways

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To Meet Great Men, Focus On Yourself (And 4 More Ways)

April Davis

Written by: April Davis

April Davis

April Davis, founder of Cupid’s Cronies, always knew she had a knack for reading people but never imagined how that skill would be used in the future. Realizing she should take her hobby of matching friends and acquaintances to the next level, she created a company that not only has a hand-on “Head hunter” approach, but it also acts as a dating coach to help people be successful in the beginning phases of a relationship. Love is one of the most important aspects for a quality life, which is why April and her team of dating coaches are set to bring love and advice to people everywhere.

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So you’re single and although you’re happy for your friends and their relationship success, you are tired of feeling like you’re the only one who can’t find The One.

Finding and attracting a man is possible, but you have to be willing to put in the effort. Follow these steps and you will be experiencing relationship bliss soon.

1. Put your list in check.

Focus on the relationship you want and the characteristics a person should have to contribute to that relationship.

Too many people approach dating like they’re buying a car and focus on the features the car/man should have – dark hair, makes more than $100,000, drives a BMW, etc.

These features are not what make a successful relationship. It’s the character of the person and their commitment to the relationship.

Our culture has become focused on what’s the next bigger and better thing. Remember when the grass looks greener on the other side, it’s time to water your own grass.

You want to make certain you’re with someone who will be committed to the relationship you build together.

At the end of the day, we’re all going to turn gray and lose our teeth. Your boobs will be down to your knees anyway. The superficial things don’t matter in the end.

2. Explore your passions.

You’re single and have free time. This is the time for you to explore all the things you have always wanted to. In order to meet new faces, it’s necessary to vary the places you frequent. You want to cast your net widely.

Explore your passions by trying the things you had always thought of, like that cooking or Spanish class. You are likely to find someone whom you share some things in common.

Don’t be afraid to travel by yourself. You’ll likely meet new people on your travels and expand your breadth of knowledge to have more to talk about when you return.

“Don’t expect your man to

come knocking on your door.”

3. Get out of the house.

Do not expect your man to come knocking on your door or singing a beautiful love song with your name as part of the chorus. Get out!

Good players do not score goals while sitting on their couch. They score them on the field in the presence of thousands of fans.

Make an effort to be seen by new, qualified guys. Dating is somewhat about numbers and you need to get out there and start sifting through them. If you’re only meeting 10 new guys a year, your likelihood of meeting The One is pretty slim.

Ask yourself where your ideal guy frequents. Does he go to the gym and the same grocery store? Is he of a certain faith/religion?

Frequent such places and you will likely identify some prospects. Such venues include restaurants/bars, churches, temples, sporting arenas, art galleries, bookstores, coffee shops, philanthropic events and more.

4. Avoid walking in crowds.

A crowd is defined as a group of three or more ladies. Men fear approaching a lady who is in the company of a crowd. There is nothing more humiliating than a lady rejecting a man in the presence of other women.

If all you do is talk to your friends when you go out, the chances of a guy feeling like he can interrupt and join the conversation are pretty slim.

When you are out, make sure you step away from your group, look around, smile, say hi and be open so guys feel they can approach you.

5. Be positive.

In your day-to-day routine, and especially when you strike a conversation with anyone (not just potential lovers), maintain a positive approach. Nobody likes a Negative Nancy, and all that negativity can lead down a slippery slope into depression.

It’s the law of attraction – positivity attracts positivity. Whenever you start to have a negative thought, pinch yourself and remind yourself that’s not who you want to be.

You want to remain optimistic and happy about the world around you. Having a great outlook in life and of people will bring great opportunities not only your love life, but also the rest of your world.

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